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Stephen
That is absolutely fantastic that you spent time with your son .
Our kids prefer time with us to any play station or toy.
U are doing so well in resisting gambling- It really hard at the start .

There was a discussion on my thread about the difference between absintence and recovery . I didn’t quite understand myself . Perhaps you could read everyone’s comments.

Gambling leaves us with so many issues to sort out – so I would advise you for now to just concentrate on abstinence – the other stuff will fall into place – look at today – abstaining from gambling turned into quaility time with your son.

Keep strong Stephen – your life will get better and better !

You are really doing well –

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Hi Monica
It is so good to be able to buy new things for our homes / I feel it really gives us a sense of what can be .

Sorry to hear about your stomach – it seems like a Mediterranean diet is the answer – and that doesn’t come cheap ! You are wise to keep a little money back .

The good thing is that we are gamble free and looking forward ! Talk soon

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Yippee!
Well done Stephen !
Proud of u !
Keep strong!

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Hi Stephen Just stay strong – every time you feel an urge write on here. Maybe hide some money at work so you can’t be tempted after work. I have in the past taped all my cards to the underside  of my desk at work! You can do this Stephen- we are all rooting for you! Keep us posted !

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Hi Stephen
How’s are things ?
Did U manage to get sorted out for money to travel to work?
Gambling brings sommuch stress it makes you wonder why we do it ?
Keep strong!

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Hi Kin
What an awful brave and wise decision to change jobs .
I can hear from your posts that this has removed a lot of temptation and given you stability .
Sure the work is hard and pays less but you are still richer than when you gambled – you have a better and more stable life !
Well done – keep strong !

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Hi Kin
What an awful brave and wise decision to change jobs .
I can hear from your posts that this has removed a lot of temptation and given you stability .
Sure the work is hard and pays less but you are still richer than when you gambled – you have a better and more stable life !
Well done – keep strong !

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Hi Stephen
Well said !
Whatever happens with your relationship will happen.
Seek recovery for you – because you deserve a happy and free life .

Gambling helps us escape all kinds of issues and puts us off making hard choices .

You will not be successful if you stop gambling for someone else – do it for you !

Really start to believe that Stephen deserves this – no more worry , heartache and shame !

Keep strong !

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Just missed u and Mon in chat !

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Hi Monica Firstly – some people can have romantic relationships but perhaps are best not living together- why not ?

Life is short, love makes it sweeter and do whatever makes u happy ! There are no rules !

I think our self-imposed financial limitations have us looking at everything differently- we know that we are fortunate in that we still have earning power -(yes power because money is power) and we realise that not everyone who makes mistakes or cannot get by is as fortunate .

It’s a cruel world – in many ways human society is as ferocious as wild packs of animals – where the weak are left to fend for themselves or abandoned .

We pretend at being civilised by helping certain segments of society but in truth we prefer to ignore the more feral parts of our nature and our society . For example We leave homeless people to die exposed to the elements each year just as animals abandon their weak … and if they have an addiction – we can excuse ourselves from guilt and blame that.

So maybe I am getting old and grumpy too but I look and I see and I don’t like a lot of what I see !

Onwards and upwards xx

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Laura i love when I check GT and u have written on your own thread .
I agree with all you have said –
Let’s not give those fat cats another penny .
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Vera

This is great news – you have not hit rock bottom.

You  are a strong woman  – you can draw a line in the sand and move on from this .

Your fund  is intact and you havent undone all your immense efforts.

There is enough money in there  for your son’s wedding .

I am so glad you put restrictions on that account – well done for that .

Get back on the horse Vera- you will  ok !

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All good here – getting ready for a family hol- which is easier because I have been gamble free! Things are still tight and will be for some time but it’s amazing how quickly things improve once we stop gambling.

You will find that too- perhaps it might be an idea to visit your son this week- you don’t have to give him anything except your time .!

Keep strong – things will get better – that’s an absolute promise !

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So deeply sorry to read this Vera but also so full of admiration for your bravery in coming back to share and seek help.

It is a constant battle – the urges are never far away and the temptation is overwhelming. You have achieved an amazing 27 months and you can do it again.

Denial is useful but so is action- when you are ready you can start a new plan and start to rebuild the money .

Of course we all know it’s not just about the money – it’s the horrible feelings you described on Lizbeth’s thread – the horrible aftermath when reality kicks in.

You have helped so many on here – start a new thread and let the community help you through this .
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Hi Stephen
In response to your recent post

What can you do right now to help yourself ?
What small step can you take ?

Now do it !

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