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Hi Kathryn!
I’m glad Brea is enjoying her new car. This would never have happened if you were still gambling!
One thing I meant to as you!
Did hubby ever gamble since?
You think you have a big week ahead. This weekend, I will be working Saturday and Sunday (end of week) Then Monday and Tuesday!
One day at a time is the only way I can do that either!
One of the guys owes me a day and he said " request to work on Tuesday, I’ll request to be off and I’ll pay you back".
My request was granted. His wasn’t!
As the say in Russia ……….TUFFSHITSKI!!!!!all the sevensKathryn,
Good luck with that little windfall! You deserve every penny of it! The Irish Government wouldn’t give you the steam off their piss! Excuse the vulgarity but we are being raped and plundered in this country. Read what Sulls wrote to my thread today (yesterday) If they did that to me, I’d burn down the bank.
I hope you get a lovely car for Brea. She sounds like a really good girl.
As for my finances, Kathryn, we could remortgage the house, but my husband paid off every penny of that because I wasn’t working all those years so I don’t think it would be fair to him. It would be a huge reduction though!
I wish I was a psychopath, with no feelings!
The thought of losing the house would terrify me.I turned stone cold reading about yours…
You will buy a property again Kathryn. I know it in my bones that the rest of your life will be blessed. Get a mortgage in Brea’s name when she is 21 and you can increase your working hours to pay it off. I’m nearly 20 years older than you, so you have a lot of earning power left by comparison.
I know you will move mountains yet!
never say never!
If you ever gamble again, God help you! I will go to Melbourne and SHAKE you!
all the sevensKathryn,
Can I ask you a question?
How in God’s name can you afford to buy a car? I can barely afford the petrol!
(Just had a flash….where will I get the money for the tax and insurance? Don’t even remember when it’s due!)
As for gambling thoughts. Be careful! If you have money it’s a big temptation. On the other hand when we don’t have money, we think about "earning" some in the casino..No nd to this damn addiction!
Anyway, you can’t go, youre barred!
all the sevensThanks for your post Larry.
It’s so easy to gamble one’s life away!
Will we ever discover what we have been trying to escape from?
I’m so sorry that you have to deal with the trauma of divorce. i couldn’t even bear to think of that.
Although my husband is distant and non-communicative, he is , as you say , THERE!
That means a lot!
I often wonder does he prefer me to be here or in the casino!
He has never given me a straight answer to that question!
all the sevensHi Larry,
Well done on passing the two month mark. The Key to Recovery is a thoughtul idea. Never heard of it before.
Thanks for posting to my thread. As Harry rightly pointed out on ZigZag’s thread,anxiety about debt, has a negative effect on REAL recovery.
If my debt was wiped out I feel, I’d be free. It is soul-destroying to have my salary passing through my account into repayments. On the otherhand, if it were still passing through my account to slot machines, it would be so much worse.
I’ve been thinking of the positives!
1.I have a well paid job.
2 I never missed a payment because of the "standing order" set up with the bank.
3. Every month (when I don’t gamble), my payments are one less. The loans are based on a 60 month period.
The negatives are,
1. My repayments are too high.
2.The government levies are increasing, so working overtime is no longer a solution.
3. The stress of owing money is driving me crazy.
As you say, directing my anger towards gambling is better than blaming myself or the banks.
I will have to try another route to consolidate though, even if it takes longer to repay. The credit union are considering my application but want me to build my shares up to 12 grand! Not a hope!
I found a Mortgage company that will allow us to re mortgage but, since my husband was the one to pay off every penny of our mortgage by hard work, I feel it would be very unfair of meto ask him to give up his mortgage free status.
He really does not see gambling as an illness and cannot understand how anyone in their right mind would put money into a machine and expect to get it back again.
He goes crazy over the credit card debt and says " so what" that I am paying almost all my salary. " You can’t have your cake and eat it " is his attitude, so "pay up and shut up"!
I do blame him partly for my dilemma because I begged him about 4 years ago to help me quit. I went to GA and asked him to go to GAM ANON but he said it was my problem, not his. I begged him to hold my ATM card. He "forgot" and gave it back. I asked him to come for walks, meals, cinema , short holidays etc, but he did so with such derision that the lack of enjoyment would drive a miser to gambling.I think he prefers me to gamble!
So, until I get my finances sorted, I will continue with a " stinted" form of recovery!
Better than gambling all the same!
all the sevens4 G-FREE MONTHS Kathryn!
VERY WELL DONE! TAKE A BOW!
I HOPE THOSE DREAMS NEVER COME TRUE.
I DON’T KNOW WHICH IS WORSE, WAKENING UP FROM SUCH A DREAM AND REALISING IT’S NOT REAL , OR REALISING YOUR NIGHTMARE HAS TIPPED INTO REALITY……
DOES THIS MAKE SENSE?
all the sevensthanks Larry,
You have come such a long way!
all the sevensKathryn………..
Just one word for you,
Persistence !
all the sevenswe get out of life what we put in Kathryn, and you sure have put a lot into your recovery and into this forum;that’s what is coming back to you now!
Glad you’re feeling happy today!
all the sevensWell done on the power walking Kathryn,
I’m so tired I can barely type. Almost midnight now. Exhausted after my OT. We were short-staffed and my boss offered me 12 hrs OT again tomorrow…too tired! Said I’d do 6 , so I’m on 2 to 8pm. My son has a friend staying for a few nights. Barely spoke to them, or to hubby since he came home. Working my own 12 hour shift on Friday and 12 hours night overtime on Sunday. Money for college fees. Delighted to get the chance. Not much overtime available with cut backs. The tough part is that almost half of it goes between taxes and levies………
How did we every find time and energy to gamble?
Head down now………..
all the sevensHi Kathryn!
Just home from a twelve hour shift. Hubby just home from Germany. I’m too tired to talk so i’m sending one post and then lights out. Long day again tomorrow.
21:o5 Irish time…
all the sevensPaul,
i’m reading a story of a man who has a gambling problem. He is broke. He is worried. He is lonely. He is afraid.
is that you Paul?
There is a lot of help here. also in GA. You can get a "buddy" on this site. You can get counselling. You can self-exclude. You won’t break a barring order. You’re a proud man Paul. it shows in your writing!
Look at today only. Can you hand over your money to a trusted friend ? (No money ? Join the club !) Can you find some activity to occupy yourself. Free of charge, you can walk in the park. Take a bike ride. Visit a neighbour or friend. Cook a meal or eat in a friend’s/family member’s house. the options are endless.
Just for TODAY, do not gamble!
all the sevensNice to meet you in the chat room this evening Paul!
I read your answers twice. You say you didn’t need to take the test to discover you are a Cg, but it sure helps your recovery to have attained this level of self awareness.
Good luck in recovery. You are not alone!
One day at a time!
all the sevenshi Kathryn,
It’s a terrible breach of confidentiality! What if a husband was having this test done unknown to his wife…Just put it to one side now and DETACH!
I don’t mean to be mercenary (well I do really). You’re husband got you into this mess. Why are you picking up the tab by taking all the stress? Let him sort it!
all the sevens