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I agree with Jilly – thanks Velvet for your dedication to Gambling Therapy site & to all at GT as I can say it is truly a place that has helped ground me during weaker moments.
My thought for the day is to continue to focus on the positives the future holds for us & remind myself (when I forget) not to regret the past but as in Meglee’s quote – to accept it is part of our journey in this life & what has made us who we are!
ThanksThere’s always light at the end of the tunnel even if sometimes you have to try really hard to see it!Hi Lily
I’m so glad you posted!
Reading much of your post is like the story of my own experience – & as you probably also think when reading others posts about their experiences with an active CG it is uncanny how similar our dealings are.
I was totally blown away when I came accross this site to read others posts literally say what I was thinking – wow did I begin to feel sane then!!!!- it is the first time I truly began to understand this very sad addiction – & also the first time I began to truly come to peace with my own decision like you to leave my active CG –
Like your story Lily, having spent time with an active CG spouse we do come out emotionally battered & bruised, & as in my case pretty much in financial ruin!! but I’ve no regrets – today I am so relieved I had the courage to go it alone & not accept that the addiction continue to control my life.
Step by step we can rebuild our finances (without the burden of an active CG draining funds) – & one day at a time we can rebuild our lives – for us & for the better of our childrens future.
We have to come to the acceptance that we are not responsible for the CG – or their recovery, we are responsible only for our own personal recovery.
So, thanks again for your post – we are no longer victims to gambling addiction & that is worth celebrating!
There’s always light at the end of the tunnel even if sometimes you have to try really hard to see it!– 25/08/2010 14:03:50: post edited by movedon.All the best Jess – thank you for your supportive posts, I’ll always remember how good it felt when someone answered me – it really feels great to be supported & we are not alone when we come onto GT, so farewell to this part of your journey & all the best for the future ahead.
Hugs XXXThere’s always light at the end of the tunnel even if sometimes you have to try really hard to see it!Hi Kathryn
Am glad you liked the letter – I just couldn’t resist posting it when I read it, it’s so sad but it also has hope within it! –
I got it from a thread entitled a return to old ways, by familyman in MY JOURNAL forum
Would you believe I even emailed a copy of it to my ex spouse who is an active CG & who has stepped out of my & my childrens lives – although he doesn’t want anything to do with us, I still couldn’t resist the urge to send him that & this website address! always with the hope that although I wasn’t able to be his team mate in beating the addiction that maybe, just maybe a lightbulb will go off on his head & he may decid to help himself! In my heart it would be a dream come true, if at least for the children to be able to enjoy a DAD! one can never lose hope for the future!
All my best wishes to you in your recovery – you are very courageous in accepting that you have an addiction & even more courageous to be fighting it! well done……..There’s always light at the end of the tunnel even if sometimes you have to try really hard to see it!