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So true.Present yourself as you are, no more no less! It’s who you are.
You are an inspiration, still waiting for my 2 months GF but tuesday it will be!
I know it sounds easy…But you just can’t change the past. Make a plan for your future and work hard to achieve your goals in life. What your goals are isn’t too important. Any realistic goal can be realized by any ordinary person, you too.
The past is gone…
You woke up today with some debt. It’s just how it is.NEVER EVER GAMBLE AGAIN!!!! NEVER DO IT AGAIN!!!
Your family may forgive you one last time….I hope they do! You have to tell them why you can not pay them back. Make a payback deal with your family – A realistic deal which suites both parties.
Let your wife control your finances (may be embarrassing but necessary and you love each other, don’t you?).
Find strength…You wake up tomorrow with a wife and some debt…I would switch if I could…Work off your debt and enjoy your life with your family AND NEVER GAMBLE AGAIN!
Great work! You can be proud of yourself!
I got urges today after 7 weeks. Only lasted like 5 minutes and I can’t Gamble (self excluded). First strong urges I have got actually. I think it will take months, possible years to get completely out of this addiction.
Could your girlfriend, parents or friends help you out? You said your salary will double in July, it’s “only” 2,5 month.. Could they pay your food, rent, drive you to work or whatever is needed?
It may be difficult to ask but you need to do something radical and difficult to get past this urgent debt?
Really sad to hear about your story. Your behaviour sounds quite similar to mine when it comes to gambling…
1. You could get an extra job and earn it back within some years?
2. Try counselling or group therapy?
3. Time heals all wounds…Can’t really see any other solution than feel the pain and wait. It will go away, it always does. Someday you hardly remember you ever did this.
Just remember NOT to do it again. If you had all these money in some kind of account…nothing is really changed at this moment…of course your future looks different but not necessarily worse.As Steev said “you can enjoy life with very little”. The best things in life are free. I know it won’t help much to think about it when you feel as you do now but it’s true.
Try to relax and be kind to yourself right now and try to do some of the things you like.
Wish you the best
Hi Ivan
You should seek free financial counselling from an organization in Croatia.Try to search the internet for an organization which could help and call them as soon as possible. When you get past your immediate trouble, you should prevent yourself from gambling ever again.
You are going to survive. It’s not too late to get a wonderful life but you have to get past a few terrible months before it gets better.
I felt really sad for you when I read the initial story. It is really difficult to stop gambling after 5 years. Habits are difficult to change and the excitement is very addictive.
You have taken the right steps. I like how you have taken very serious steps instead of just small ones. It is the best solution – to take it very serious and really do anything to prevent any relapses. Congratulations!
We never gamble again!
It sounds like you are doing fine? And have time for some reflection?
This sudden worldwide virus seems to slow the economy down quite a bit. Four months ago I could afford to be unemployed for like a year…I would not have cared much…Now I feel a bit anxious, I could lose my job and would not be able to survive for more than 3 months. The chance of getting a new job gets slimmer every day…Before I thought I could get a job tomorrow if I tried…Not sure now.
It really makes my regret even bigger! It all depends..perhaps it’s all over in a few months and I’ll do fine but clearly this thing should make it even more clear that gambling is something I did in my past.You haven’t lost your money! You lost your winnings according to yourself. If you gamble it goes up and down (mostly down) so you should be very happy if you are up…and you should not try to win anything back.
Anyway, the emotions are pretty much the same…A loss feels really bad but you should read more stories and realize that you could and probably will lose your own money if you had continued.
You are doing the right thing. Your actions are really awesome and you can be proud of yourself. Remind yourself how strong you are and you show us all how it should be done!