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  • in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53665
    konj1978
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    Its 8 weeks since i stopped gambling and started new life. It worth because life is too good and its too bad to lose any moment on gambling.

    I had few big urges in last days and it only confirm favtum i learned before from another people fighting gambling problems. Most critical moments when you want to quit gambling addiction are after 2 months, after 6 months and after 2 years that is big and final exam in this process.

    So i successfully passed my first exam after two months. It was not so easy and had a lot
    t of urges and challenges, especially in last days. This mostlu because i had a lott of free from my job. Bur from today it shiuld be easier. Ifts full focus on ecovery and decision that i will never in my life place any bet and nothing to do with gambling. I will fight!!

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53662
    konj1978
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    Happy and Gambling Free New 2020 Year to all people here!!!

    More then 7 weeks since i stopped with gambling and turned a new site of my life. That was real and biggest decision in my life. I have it wonderful and fantastic now and enjoy really each secunde of my life with my family!!!

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53661
    konj1978
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    Hello its almost 6 weeks since i am living without gambling. I am living my new life and hate everything about sports and sports gambling. I dont follow ssports news and sport and i dont even think about gambling. Didnt had so much urge this time but i knot it will come and try to take me away again. I am ready and just try to be strong to this battle !!!. My wife gave me absoluteluly last chance to save my family and i will fight this time as never before. I dont have solutions to solve my financial problens and debts this time because my wife doesnt want, or simply due our childerns simply can not help me with financial help and make so big risk again. But i will find something. I am starting to feel preasure because banks are calling me and asking money. I cannt pay all that and try to get some help. But to be honest, i dont care about debts and banks so much this time. I just have full focus on my recovery. I dont want to gamble again!! Never!! I will do my all best to not to place any bet in rest of my life!! I hope that God will help me and safe both me and my fanily and all people in this world!!! I have it really wonderful with my family again. Life is wonderful!! 

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53658
    konj1978
    Participant

    Hello all good people!!!

    I am new man, stronger then ever !!!
    Almost 4 weeks since i stopped with gambling. Two days ago since i admited all about my new gambling and new debts to my wife and some people close to me. Was ready to lose all of them, but not, i am getting support, but its not so easy !!
    I will explain all soon in one of my next topics but i am very tired now.. it tok my all energy…

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53656
    konj1978
    Participant

    Thank you Seanraj,
    i wish you too all the best !!! Be ppsitive man !!

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53654
    konj1978
    Participant

    Today is big day in my life. Today i will admit all to my wife again. This will be 3th time and i am not sure what will be happened. I was thinking about this conversation in last few months but was not ready, couldnt simply, it was stronger then me. But in all last 3-4 was days i was only wrked on this conversation. I know that i dont have nothing to lose, because i lost it all long time ago. I am reafy for her any decision, so there is also posibility that i will need to left our home tonight and sleep on street, or in best case, in the car. I dont have any place to go, dont have any money…But i am ready to fight against my ego and f… personality and this addiction…I will win, not addiction…

    in reply to: Debts – psychology, tips, advices !! #53689
    konj1978
    Participant

    Thank you, especially to Steev !!

    I will work on myself and on this. I need more staff loke this.
    Right noe i dont have any problems brcause i stopped gambling, but when i start to think about my bad economy and debts, it will be difficult and big pressure on me.

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53652
    konj1978
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    thank you.. this is day before my big new decision. Tomorrow i will admit all to my wife, its 3th time in last two years that i do this but i think its better to do then never to do this.. I feel it will be last time, i am sure about that actually, , maybe because she will left me with our kids ( or better to say ask me to left their home because i gambled all i had and home is their, not mine), or last time because i know and feel that this is last time i will be in this situation. One is clear, i will never make gambling again. I will delete all from my life that have something with gambling to do. I will delete all sources and internett things that can close me to gambling again, tro to not be in touch with people around me that have something wiyh gamblong or talk about that. Actually all this osnt necesserry, this is my decision. I will again change my life. This time i need to work much more to not think about financial and debts even i eill need to wotk at least 7-10 years to repay all of them…But i dont think about money anymore… I can live mostly without mpney. I tried this in last few mounths and found that i dont need money, or something small money, sof course after i pay all for debts for house, kids and family. For me its enough few dollars sometimes for few beers. I dont dream and think about mpney anymore. With this i am sure this time i will kill my gambling addiction. I am on therapy also and it hrlps a lott to talk with people that have similar history and same problems.

    in reply to: I need to say the true but simply cannt #53650
    konj1978
    Participant

    Thank you for your support and nice words.

    Yes, life is difficult, but my final decision is that i will fight and try to win this addiction. In last 2-3 years i dont enjoy gambling and i recognized my addiction and all problems, but mostly huge debts made that i was gambling. Now its clear for me that i can not fix my financial problems with gambling. I have now one theory about that reason and i trust in this theory.
    I am not so bad tipster for sports vettinf
    g. I know also that luck is variable. I know that i have good strategies. With all this i know that i theory i could be maybe successful bettor. But there is one big differance in my belief. Now i knom and i am aware that i am addict and ill and that any new try for gambling is not worth. I know that each time i will finish in same aituation.
    No, i dont want it. I will collect power to change my life.

    Tomorrow i will explain all again to my wife and some people close to ne. No matter consequents, it can happened that tbis time i lose my family, my wife and childern, but i lost them long time ago with my bad decisions. But first of all i want new life, or my old one i had many years ago..I have now totally different opinion about my economy and debts. I dont care about money. I dont need anything big, sone foos and few beers, enough for me…Few years ago when i was most active with gambling, if someone asked me what should i do if i win 1 mil USD, I
    i know what should be my answer. I should just continue with gamblind.
    Due all of this i just decided to stop and live rest of my life with small things. One day by one day. Thats all.

    in reply to: Dealing with loss / guilt and depression #46701
    konj1978
    Participant

    Hello

    sorry to hear this story but i hope that you will win against your gambling.

    Your last sentence is key factor in all process. I had same problems.
    Look, its big money and its difficult to earn it or get it back.

    you need first to recognize your gambling problems, then you need to stop gambling. after that you need to work and to put short term goals or plans about your treatment. Dont think and forget if you can debts, mobey, gambling. i know its difficult but work on it

    in reply to: My sad story #46481
    konj1978
    Participant

    Almost 6 weeks without gambling. since i was gambling in 18 years (in last 10 years almost daily) i still have intense  urges and its often, also almost daily. But i am strong and want stop gambling for ever and try to change my life. In this oeriod and  first phase of this changes, next to family and work (i increased all activities at work and in family) i am trying several new hobbies to fill my life with new and healthy  activities. Its going slowly but i see changes and there is a hope. I learned one important thing at my last group therapy for this situation and this stage of this process: make plans only for one day, make small changes each day, day after day, day after day….

    in reply to: I tried to stop gambling but failed badly #46697
    konj1978
    Participant

    Hello

    Sorry to hear this. Ask yourself, what i really do to stop gambling?

    I and many people here are in same situation and have same problems But soneone of us is working on it, someobe dont.

    in reply to: What to do now? #46690
    konj1978
    Participant

    Hello yes, i have a strategy or system that works. I dont gamble now, i have urge in almost each day (usually in afternoon) but i am strong and i dont gamble. I write my bets on paper (i know this is stupid) but i need to know true about this. I have this strategy and system that works and wich i can use against bookmakers. On the another side, i know that i am addict and that i have gambling problems. I can not trust myself saying that i will respect all rules of my strategy and that i will play only according to this rules and nothing moe. I know that. So i dont gamble now. I am trying at the same time to solve my addict problems and to work on my strategy and rules. Its stupid of course because it increasy urge that attack me daily, but one day i will or forever stop with gambling, or start to gamvle again, but this time with full self control, with only one strategy and their rules. It will fir sure be last try, final cut. After this there is nothing that can get me back to gambling world. I will quit and bring that pain in my body, in my head, brcause i deserve that pain. But soon or later i deserve also one and last try, but this time with professional rules and strategy. 

    I never made this before.(playing with full control, strategy and rules)  This strategy really works and i allready have two trial periods on paper and if i placed all those bets i could earn so much money in few weeks tobe able to pay all livibg and debt costs for 2-3 months. But i am gambler, not professional bettor, so i need to work on it and hold myself out of gsmbling world.

    I almost forgot to say most important thing about this strategy. . With this strategy i need to play only 3-4 hours daily ( not longer). This can then classify or interpret as hobby or investment 

    in reply to: life without gambling #46685
    konj1978
    Participant

    i hope you undeestan my problem. i can stop with betting and gambling, i can got back my normal life, do it better in all relations, be happy in those aspects of life.

    But there is fact that gambling makes me happy on another side. Without gambling i think that i will not be happy person anymore..

    in reply to: Betblocker- new free gambling blocker ? #46221
    konj1978
    Participant

    thank you for update. How it works (Betfilter) and what is the price?

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