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Trying to get back on Recovery Road.
icandothisParticipantHey CC, Sorry you are feeling low. Sorry that it comes with the territory of gambling. I stopped on the way home from the hospital. new casino. Nothing new about the experience. Similar to yours. Feeling very low. 5 months is wonderful. Focus on recovery and your success. I still believe in 2013 as a year of recovery. All the days of recovery are more powerful than one day of gambling. i am ready to get back on the road. How about you??
icandothisParticipantMy brother has made it through surgery and is recovering, as am I.
icandothisParticipantHi all, I was going to start a new thread for the new year, but once again I need to ask for prayers. I am on my way to Cleveland Clinic today. This is a very good hospital, and I am grateful for that. My brother, who has an aneurism in his aorta is having tests today. If the tests go well, he will have surgery tomorrow. I am feeling better and am feeling much more optimistic.
icandothisParticipantGlad you were ok, Bettie. Scary. I believe, also, that 2013 will be your year! Don’t stop believing…hold on to that feeling! lol Happy New Year!
icandothisParticipantKathryn, Thank you for your kind words on my thread. I hope you had a Merry Christmas, too!
icandothisParticipantThank you, Kathryn. I so want to believe in a life free from all my addictions! Merry Christmas to you!!!
icandothisParticipantYour support to me and others is such a blessing. Wishing you the best this holiday season.
icandothisParticipant((((Larry)))) You are certainly not a fraud or a weak person. I admire you so much. You have done such a great job on your recovery. It shows so much character to continue posting. You have and continue to help so many. Today, I extend my hand to you my fellow gambler, my friend!
icandothisParticipantHey Bettie, Great story. Is Jim single??? If so, did you get his number???
icandothisParticipantHi Bettie, Just wanted to thank you for posting to me on my thread. I think you are right, our addiction likes to feed us with negative thoughts. Our addiction also likes to tell us that things will get better if we hit the "jackpot" and then, we will quit gambling and use that jackpot to improve our lives. Such lies! This must be an emotional time for you. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong!
90 pounds lighter!!!! Yeah, you!!!icandothisParticipantHi Larry/Paul, Just wanted to share a story which relates to your post signature. Years ago, when I was teaching Sunday School at our church, we had two Lesbian white women who were active members and also my friends. They both were Social Workers and became aware of abused children who were literally being locked in their family’s attic. There were 3 African American boys, and 1 African American girl. Cousins and siblings. The two women wanted to become their foster parents with the desire to adopt. There was talk (all behind their backs, of course) about the rightness of this decision. Should 2 Lesbian white women raise 3 black boys? Were they being selfish and not really thinking about what was best for the boys? (The girl was adopted later) As you can imagine, there was alot for these kids to adjust to. As a congregation, we did everything to embrace these children, but they lacked so many socialization and communication skills. At around 10 years of age, they had never even held a ball. My friends were worried about one of the boys in particular who seemed content at first but then refused to talk and wouldn’t respond when they called his name. He then began telling them that his name was Paul and he would not answer to his old name. They then realized that he had heard the Saul/Paul story in Sunday School and that he no longer wanted to be referred to by his old name. From then on everyone had to call him Paul or he wouldn’t answer. When he was adopted, his name was legally changed to Paul. These wonderful children taught our congregation so much, but Paul in particular. Honestly, I don’t remember his birth name. These children didn’t care about color or sexual orientation. They were ready to leave the past behind. Paul understood that he was on the right road that he was given a second chance and he was going to embrace his opportunity for transformation. He and the other children never looked back. They embraced their new life and those who were offering it to them with all of their hearts and they didn’t care what anybody else thought. All of them are going or have graduated from college. Once Paul found his voice, he began singing in the church choir (the voice of an angel) and then sang in college and went into theater as well.
This Paul reminded me of another Paul who had the courage change. I just wanted to share this story with you and to say Thank you for your continued support.icandothisParticipantCongratulations, Larry, on your 3 years. Three years of not just being Gambling Free, but working recovery. Thanks for sharing your journey with us!
icandothisParticipantDay 2. So nice to get caring responses after being away and taking a deliberate detour on the road to recovery. Yesterday was a "normal" day or it could have been, maybe even a great day, but then, you just keeping remembering that it is day 1. My hubby and I went to a resort town and had dinner with his family and then went to a show that was a tribute to Frank Sinatra. Would not have felt bad about the extravagence if I hadn’t gambled. Also, thinking husband knows I gambled but doesn’t know the damage yet. Thinking that his family thinks I’m ok, but I’m not. Can’t relax and enjoy myself because I don’t deserve it and I am thinking that I am a terrible person. Always hiding the person I really am. Now today, mixed with the shame and guilt is regret and "I just can’t believe I did that!" and "Why did I have to do that?" …"I could be enjoying my life if I didn’t keep messing up!"….I know I did this to myself and my family…just sharing my thoughts and feelings. I am going away for the weekend to pick up my daughter in New York City, so I will be away for a couple of days. But I will be back posting on Monday continuing to record this crazy road to recovery.
icandothisParticipantAnother day 1. Someone talked about shame and guilt. I hate it. I think it’s easier to change if we can let go of it. I am doubting my ability to change and all I have to show for what I have done is shame and guilt. I really don’t want to say much at this time. So many fears, doubts but I can have a good life…it’s up to me. I hope my husband can stay with me and forgive me. He deserves more than I have given him. I am going to ***** days because every day matters, and every day I must make a conscious effort not to gamble, and then hopefully begin to fill days with something better. Life is too precious and short to live this way. ENOUGH!
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