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Hi I am currently doing well not great. I have more money than when I orginallly posted and a better car ;). I was able to save some because I stop carrying debit cards and large amounts of cash trust me a lot of cash in pocket is a trigger. I know because I’ll be completely honest I’ve gambled a couple times since my orginally post and everytime I ended up gambling was after a few drinks and reach in my pocket and have a wad of cash. I try to get creative and fool myself into thinking I can double the money but you can’t. Alcohol gives false confidence so if you know you will be drinking don’t bring a lot of money period. I personally drink way less now I think that’s why I gamble way less. They were kind of dual addictions fueling each other. I’ll be honest it’s a long journey that you have continue to be aware of because it’s easy to fall back into the pattern of just gambling everyday. I have not went back to online gaming at all. I renewed my self exclusion for another 5 months and that I am proud of very much. I think also what has helped me is mapping out daily plans when you get up so you don’t gamble and if you do gamble it will seemed contrived because your not keeping your goals to yourself. My best advice is never give up because you messed up. Also find your triggers that is a must so you can have more sense of control. You have to come back stronger and more determined because you can do this. I just set a loafty goal myself which is about a 12-18month process and I’m challenging myself to not do any forms of gambling or gaming in that respected time frame. You see for me doing it like this is easier on my mental than I will never gamble again that’s like way to much pressure to fulfill. I’m also glad my post reach someone because that was my objective and to very honest with myself.

Thank you

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FM 27 days gamble free is a accomplishment be proud of yourself. I keep seeing you write only regrets and sadness no urges. You should now try to focus on your thinking have a more positive outlook, no need to be sad the money is gone. You should be happy you realized you have a problem and your doing something about it so it doesn’t happen again. I mean you quit gambling so things are only going to get better and in time you will make the money back from your employment. Also forget about regrets you can’t change the past FACT! Trust me these negative feelings of regret and sadness or only holding down the happiness that’s stored inside of you.

Bet free is the way to be

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You can control it cut your losses now. You are in a better position than most you still have money. Most of us don’t because we gambled it away and had to hit rock bottom before we even acknowledged there was a problem. If you chase just once in your life the bug is in you. Normal people lose 20 bucks and walk away you lost 7k on horses that’s a complusive gambler you chased you have a problem. But it is not the end of world just stop now and look at it like one big mistake but if you continue to gamble for sure it will happen over and over again till your down 70k. Let me be the first to tell you Gambling is the worst thing you can do for a supplementary income because you will lose in the long haul not just money but time and the damage it does to your pysche is horrendous you only lost 7k if you have a job your guaranteed to make that back if your don’t gamble again.

Best of luck to you and remember bet free is the way to be.

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Thank you for the support still time and congrats to you as well on 12 days. Yes I have come to gripes that I am a complusive gambler and have also admitted it to all my friends who already knew but since I have come clean it has taken a lot off my shoulders and has help me to embrace this never ending journey. The best days have yet to come from us. One day at a time and within no time we will have our lives and bank accounts back. If you don’t mind me asking still time what was your game of choice?

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Hey Eric I know the feeling of just wanting your money back every gambler knows that feeling and says that if I get even I will quit but we never ever quit even if you do get even. As far as betting sports goes it’s going to be hard to watch games at first because they seem boring as hell without action but that is because you don’t care about the game your just care about gambling. The best advice I can give is stop looking at the lines because that is always a trigger you will find a “good game” but guess what if you win you will look for another it’s a vicious cycle. I am a action gambler as well main game poker but I did bet sports for a long time as well. My friends dad is a bookie and he has been doing it for close to 30 years and he even said in all his time of doing it has met thousands of gamblers and anyone who thinks they have a edge or is handicapper always goes broke I asked him if he knew any long term winners and he said nope not in his book they all lose big eventually and that’s why I haven’t worked in 30 years. After hearing that it help me quit sports betting but I still played poker I just recently admitted I am CG and I can’t make bets because it doesn’t matter one bet leads to another no matter what the action of choice is.

Bet free is the way to be

Ps take that 10000 and pay debt if you have any or give it to a loved one you trust who you know doesn’t need money and when you find a better use for the money go retrieve it.

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Day 2
Yesterday I registered on this forum. I shared some background on myself as a gambler and commented on a few others post to become active within the community. Well that led me to want to put myself on poker stars self exclusion list so I can deposit no longer ( yes I play live and online terrible I know) So I signed on and thought it was no money in my account and I would just put myself on the self exclusion list but it was money available $25.76 left from a $250.00 deposit I made a day or two prior. The first thing I did was look to see what tourneys were available and long behold a $5.00 $500gtd was running. I registered sat down with 10000 in chips and felt DISGUSTED. I said to myself what’s the point even if I win this tourney I’ll be trapped and that’s not the goal we want to be bet free and debt free so I dumped it very next hand on purpose and I was out but what came next was something I never did before. I was back in the poker stars lobby and the balance was $20.76. I said **** this I’m withdrawing this lousy 20 bucks and went and got my account number and routing number and punched it in and WITHDREW the funds then went straight to the self exclusion press the button. Felt AWESOME! but what is so big about this to me is I’ve been playing online for 2yrs and I was always to lazy to just get the damn account information out of my folder so I could do a withdrawal the only time I ever withdraw was when I’m over 1k and would drive all the way to Atlantic City so I could withdraw from the cage and just go play live. Later in the evening I had a urge to gamble in my brain well maybe not a urge but gambling thoughts were coming in and out but what was weird I felt in my heart I didn’t want to gamble and I didn’t even like gambling because it has destroyed me. I didn’t gamble I just walked around the corner to my friends house all my compadres were outside I grabbed a brew and we just started having a good time talking, joking, laughing and I even shared with them I am really trying to tackle this problem seriously this time. My friends have heard it all before but they were very supportive and that made me feel happy as well. Long story short I went home eat a pot pie, did NOT gamble, went to sleep, woke up with Money and hey I even have $20.76 extra on the way lol.

Till Next Time

K

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The 4 steps you mention you are taking that is magnificent, especially the first two socializing with friends will help you along tremendously I drank a few brews with a friend yesterday and shared some of my deepest gambling binges that I hid and felt great to talk about it. I enjoy evening walks also they allow time for you to find peace and clarity for a moment within yourself. You say you don’t have any more dreams sure you do. We have the same dreams bet free debt free life as successful young men. As for a girlfriend goes don’t rush into that just yet, because are minds are still fragile because we are in the early stages of recovery. Now just being friends with a girl and some phone conversation and casually dating is cool but just keep it as a friendship and continue to find your inner happy and for sure you will find someone because every girl loves a guy that is truly happy withhin himself because you will exude confidence.

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Hi Tom we all feel your pain and being active on this site will help you. I am 28 myself and in 50k+ in debt from gambling. Just lost my job if you have one thing to hang your head on its you ARE EMPLOYED. Now I know you think you make pennies compared to the roll you once had but you only have 38k loan and you currently make 90k with your commissions of you have no kids and are not married if you don’t place another bet in three years you will sure be out of debt and most likey have minimum 50k in bank unless you make some outlandish purchase. You can do this!!!

Ps you can’t think you are or were a pro at roulette it will ruin your pysche and ultimately you will think your good enough to win it back its not going to happen that way.

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Let me be the first to tell you the only way to get of debt is to quit gambling. As far as your families safety goes PRAY in all serious God will protect them. I can relate entirely I told myself 9yrs ago I just need my 1k back and I would quit. Ha that was a lie 9yrs later I amassed over 50k in debt 33k of it is school loans but guess what I gambled them if I didn’t gamble I would have zero debt. I ran off on bookies but always found a way back in the game. To only lose even more money. I prayed to God if I can only get a job making 1k after taxes I can get out of this mess. Guess what three weeks after I asked God gave it to me this June. I made 7k in 6 weeks with extra work and I don’t have any of it gambled it away and lost the job 7weeks after starting because I went on week bender and chased 3k in loses. Got the money back on a Thursday could have went home and back to my job but nope got room and lost it all back that night in 1fucking hr took me 72 hours of playing to get it back and dump it in 1hr. The point I’m trying to make here is if you really want out of debt everytime you get the urge to gamble just spend all your money on bills you’ll be broke but at least the money went to YOUR GOALS and not the dealer.

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