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So, he’s had his 1st week of treatment: 8 more weeks to go. I spoke to him on the phone and he is already a lot more insightful than when he had just arrived. I’m not being fooled as I’m quite aware of a looong road ahead. He is doing fine but misses us, looks at thephotos i gave him often, and said how much he loves me. It’s good to hear! Today I missed him too, just him-not the addiction. This week I’ll speak to MiL and FiL..will be interesting to see if they have new insights too,but I won’t get my hopes up. X

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Thanks to the support I got on this website my hb is now in an in-house treatment facility far far away. ***** be there for over 2 months and I’m feeling many emotions: Happiness: that he’s gotten help, hope: for a brighter future, sadness: I miss him, insecurity: will treatment help?..and many more as it will be a rollercoaster ride.
Making sure he caught the plane was a challenge in itself, he was procrastinating-really bad. But it’s now water under the bridge and he made it there, i assume. Have a good wknd all!

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…Applicable in many aspects of life. Thanks! We’ll talk soon. X

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CG’s departure date for his treatment is rapidly approaching and we’re experiencing different emotions. On one hand I’m a bit anxious – although I’ve prepared his suitcase and documents for him, it’s a big step. He, on the other hand, seems at peace now to be going. I can tell that he is very self-absorbed, more than usual. It’s irritating because I could use a hand every now and then.
Anyway, the other day his parents came over and we spoke about his departure. Some silly things were said – his parents keep thinking that he can control his addiction perfectly fine. But, during the conversation he gave me the biggest compliment I’ve had in a looooong time by saying to his father […] ‘I’m happy that I have a wife who does not back-off and pushes me to become a better person’ […]
 I guess my nagging is not always annoying him.
XOXO

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Hi Nitenurse, wow: thank you for posting – you are not alone, as you have noticed. Knowing there are others will make us stronger against the addiction! You inspired me: I’ll **** a fabulous dinner too!

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Dear friends,
A lot has happened the past two days and I don’t know where to begin. My parents in-law came by to visit us yesterday and, with the elephant in the living room, the chit-chat about the weather made me tremble and anxious. Finally, *I* brought up the subject. 
My hb (CG), MIL and FIL were sitting there and I said "Please, let us discuss the journey that your son will be going on soon". I had everyone’s attention and we took it from there – a lot was said and needless to say we were all super-tired afterwards. I hope to elaborate on chat.
Nutshell: His parents *do* support our decision to work on this and also him travelling to SA. Today we (my hb and I) went to sign the contracts with the rehab facility he will be travelling to in a few weeks – we feel confident this is a good move.
I’m feeling really low on energy (bad night’s sleep, accusations from CG yesterday and today) but you, my GT friends, are lifting me up. Hope to still be awake in an hour and a half to chat. HUGS ***

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Dear Ell, well done! Positive vibes make negative energy go away! Filakia & thanks also for your message. X

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We are getting closer to getting my hb into rehab. I’m pushing him and it’s costing me a lot of energy! I do believe that it will be worth the effort though. Next week we are going to see the counselor to finalize things and sign contracts and I will be able to ask all the questions I have about the whole procedure.
Then, hopefully within 3 weeks he will travel to SA for the 9 week program. It is a big deal, a huge step and I can tell he is afraid – however, he still vocalizes that he is willing to go. My family supports him (us) and our giggling baby will benefit from this.
I’ll be with you in cyberspace this evening for the serenity prayer! My love to all XOXOX

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They never came ’round yesterday. We didn’t discuss anything and my mil+fil are in denial. I don’t think they really care about my family, or even in getting their son help. Ignorance?

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Again, bets have been placed: money is gone. I found out that my MIL is only in denial towards me, as she told my FIL how I brought up the topic without her son, my hb, the CG, being present and that it’s so disrespectful of me towards my hb to talk behind his back. I feel so stabbed in my back, it’s unbelievable. But it’s comforting to read the forum that I am not alone. Thanks for your support, all!

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