[anongirlfriend]

Hi,

Do you have any updates on the situation? How is it going?
My boyfriend has an addictive personality stemming from childhood trauma and even after recovering from substance abuse he has turned to online gambling – the current UK lockdowns have made this even harder for him.

Most days he will admit that he knows he has a problem, but the lying and gambling continue. We have tried countless ways to help him out, sometimes even sitting down to have a proper conversation about how we can help and setting limits on various accounts, but as I’m sure you know, when it comes to addiction, if he wants to continue he will certainly find a way. Despite acknowledging that he has a problem, he refuses to seek any help other than asking me to help, but there is only so much I can do.

My two biggest concerns are this:
I miss my boyfriend – like many people, he becomes a different person in the throes of his addiction and it is terribly sad to watch.

Also, one of our attempts to help him involved him signing up to GAMSTOP so he can no longer set up accounts in his name – all of his accounts are now in my name with my bank details. (He doesn’t gamble using my money, that has only ever happened once and I don’t have a job anymore thanks to COVID so he can only spend his own money anyway)
However, even if it is not my money being spent, it is still coming from my account and will show up on my statements. What will we do when it comes to buying a home etc.??

I hope your situation has improved, I know what an awful situation you are in and as sad as it is, there is only so much you can do if he is not ready to accept help for himself. I hope you are well and taking care of yourself. Sending love and positivity x

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