[Hope1]

Hello Velvet and all family and friends I just want to say how happy I am. My son is a cg, he was really at rock bottom, no hope, feeling lost, found himself in a vicious circle of going nowhere, except spiraling downwards. Well listen up. He is in recovery. He finally accepted he had a problem and went into the Gordon Moody centre for treatment . What an amazing place. When we speak to him now there is now hope, a full understanding of why he got to where he was, and a realization that ther is hope and a way out. He has taken all the treatment to heart and is applying it I want to thank everyone who has helped our son. I was lost myself, and now I have hope.. I woke up this morning and felt an urge to write something positive, I wanted to do this because at the start of my sons problems I went on this site to find a story where there was hope and a positive outcome, and where someone was in recovery, so I thought it was important to let others know that there is hope. I am not naive to think we’ll everything is ok now, it’s not, we are at the start of a long journey, but this time my son is kitted out with the right tools and equipment to keep him on track. So if that monster steps out ( the gambling monster) he has a stick of dynamite, to blow it up, in other words the strategies he has learned to keep himself safe. I love him so much, I always have, I have never given up on him, and that has paid off now. I am so proud he has stuck with the programme. So if there is a mum or dad out there with worries, please know that if your child has a problem they need to accept that, when they do and are ready for help there is real hope. My son has said to me, ‘ don’t get ahead of your self, it’s one day at a time’ and of course I know that, but just for the time being I’m being happy again, and I havnt had that good feeling in a long time, so I am enjoying it. The new journey has just started. Take care xxx

[janey1]

Thanks for sharing Anni 🙂

Take care
Janey

[velvet]

Dear Anni
How good it is to get such a positive post – I hope it raises the spirits of many others. I think your post relates to every loved one whose CG seeks recovery, not just mums and dads.
By working with your son, now that he has finished his programme, you will be giving him the finest encouragement possible. He will have ups and downs and sometimes you may feel confused but persevere and he will know he has a rock to lean on. It isn’t an easy for him and sometimes it will be hard to see him struggle but I ‘know’ it is worth all the effort.
If ever you have anything that worries you, please pop into the F&F group. At the beginning, when ‘my’ mind was still euphoric and yet frightened I often wished I had someone to talk to – I think it would have saved me from some of my errors. Fortunately my CG was strong, (thanks to GM) and he had the tools to cope – even with me.
Enjoy the journey and all the good feelings, you deserve them. Your son is saying all the right things. I was often reminded not to get too far ahead of myself but it is easy to do so after so much unhappiness. Just like our loved one, we can only live one day at a time.
Thank you for the smile you have put on my face
Velvet

[monique]

Thanks for sharing your thoughts and reminding us all of how hope can sustain us and things really can change.

All good wishes,

Monique

[Anonymous]

Am so glad that in between so much pain their is light. God is good he never said it would be easy.YOu know i have told myself that i know that its not easy at to live w a cg gambler but it can be worked on .I fell awful to know that he took five grand and that we havent seen him since thrusday now sat but if he would just fall and get up and try again that would mean the world.its not how many times to fall its that in every fall you decide to get up and sincely try again.. but any who am glad for your son and your right its not about nieve its about hope, want .. and he wants to thats a a gift…
god bless

[Hope1]

What I have learned that as a relative of a cg it is essential to protect ourselves and the CG has to take responsibility. The first step is that they need to acknowledge they have a problem, then the next is to get help. I hope yor partner will do this because it will be so hard for you if he doesn’t. Will he read some of these comments or phone the help line. Keep trying. Wish you well

[Anonymous]

Well he doesnt even have a phone anymore i still havent see him since thur. morning am worried angery . can he really be there for that long?I have tried to tell him to get help and he says that he cant do anything that he is a loser and all kinds of things. So i dont knw what to say>>

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