[Kia]

Migrated to Canada in 1990 when I was 30. When I arrived a small back bag was all I had. Went to university and worked night shifts as cab driver for four long years. Graduated as a distinguished student and got hired by a well known IT company. Was living a good life till I went to a casino with some relatives for the first time and unfortunately I won. And the darkest chapter of my life started which took 20 years. Used up all my credit cards, refinanced my house a few times, borrowed money from friends and relatives then sold my house lost my job, lost trust of my friends and relatives and nearly lost my family. My actions have created big crisis in my family, both financially and mentally. They are the true victim of this disease. I stopped gambling last week ashamed of my actions and along with lot of fears. I know I have to face the fears and fill the hole with hope and courage. The hope that gives me power to take control of my life again and to create a safe and happy family again.

[velvet]

Hello Kia and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[velvet]

Hi Kia
20 years is long enough isn’t it? You have it within you to succeed – a wonderful gamble-free future beckons, for you to live your life as the person you want to be, and you now have the support of everybody on this site.
The hole will certainly need filling with all the things you have mentioned but also with other things such as hobbies, interests, friends and family, things that have been overlooked. What hobbies and interests did you have before you went to Canada? Talk to friends and family about non-gambling things there is a lot of good things in life to talk about.
I wouldn’t be here Kia if I didn’t know that the addiction to gamble can be controlled and fantastic lives lived as a result.
Your family and friends will be unsure for quite some time so please allow them some leeway if they don’t believe in you straight away. It is actions that those who love CGs want to see, words are often too easy.
Keep posting, use our Helpline and our CG groups. Maybe you could find a local GA group to support you physically as well as using us here. Take all the support you can.
I wish you well. I am a facilitator for Friends and Family but I will watch your progress and be willing you on every step of the way.
Take just one day at a time, nobody can do more.
Velvet

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