[quidittch]

im unsure of this is in the correct section or not but im new to this site so please forgive me
but i will get right to the point, i guess im writing this for a few reasons really but 1.to get some stuff off my chest 2.to get other peoples views on what ive wrote and peoples own experiences

so like most people on here i would imagen i have a very serious gambling addiction, it started probs around when i was 19 after my mother died, and im now 30. and i would say the first year was fine i dont think i was addicted from what i remember, i would have just been placing bets on football matches at the weekend online and be fine with it, but from what i remember, the next 9 years since then up till this very current say it become a problem. i believe for many reasons but the main one was i think at some point i was gambling all my mnoney i had in my bank on footy bets, and i got my betting balance up to 15k. now ive never had that amount of money in my life. and even during that period i was still losing bets. but some how i made 15kk. but then..as you can guess. as we all know. in gambling..the bookies always win. and you will always lose. surprise suprise i lost the whole 15k. i placed 15 different footy bets at 1k each bet. and literally they all lost. 15 bets down the drain and 15k down the drain. and since then ive hardly had any big wins from what i remember. and again just like a lot of people. i chase my losses constantly. trying to claw back money when i lose it..but sadly i also even if i win some bets. i dont cash out and be happy with my win. i chase more wins to get more richer..but as everyone knows. its not possible. nobody hardly ever in history got ricvh by gambling apart from the bookmakers themselvs..but still even though i know the odds are against me..and i know how unpredictable football betting is and gambling in general..i still place bets daily with whatever cash i have left..even when i was working full time. £400 a eek salary was all going on betting..that tells me somethibng v serious. biggest part of me bets to make money..another part is because of lonliness and boredom. and because of it i am depressed everyday and get angry when my bets dont win. its a evil cycle. i used to think. well betting is a way to make money on the side but my god how wrong i was..and the longer you think like this the worse it is..i wish i was the type of guy to bet for fun..and if i win..cool cash out and be happy. and if i lose.then thats fine to i had fun..but i cant..so i dont know what to do now. iis it possible for me to just gamble from time to time and have a set limit i use like £10 a week? or will i have to completly remove it from my life? i just dont know..anyways i written this in a rush as i have to go out..but any thoughts on this and your own experiences are welcome

peace

aadam

[Saftmannen1]

You are not alone in this. Million of people have this addiction and a lot of them are ashamed about it, but this can happen to anyone. So you doing the right thing to tell people about your problem.

You can not gamble just sometimes because it will get u back in its grip and thats not the way to go. You have to give it up totally if you want to get rid of it.

Addictions is possible to break away from if u have the right tools and the first u should do is to forget the past and focus on whats now and try to find a good feeling inside. If you feel shitty about yourself and look back at your lost of money or other bad things that happened in the past u will never find peace and you always find yourself back gambling for comfort and to feel better. I hope u understand what Im trying to tell u. Start over and find a good feeling and forget about the bad things in the past and feel happy without gambling. You should of course ban yourself from all gambling sites . Hope u can break this addiction as I did.

[quidittch]

thanks so much  everything you said makes complete sense, and your right, i cant just do it part time, it has to be a complete removal from my life, otherwise my unhappyness and depression will only get worse. i just want to be a normal man..who has savings in the bank and pay my bills on time. the way im living now is nothing short of suicidal, litrally getting paid and just handing my money over to the bookmaker. its disgusting when i think about it..but enough is enough im going to focus on future not keep thinking about whats happened in the past

[velvet]

Hello Quidittch and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

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