Thought would say hi cause new here also. Like you am dealing with the lies. Lot of guilt not to mention embarrassment, shame, disbelief, horror probably a ton more 🙂
If I shared with partner it would be the third time down this path and right now I just don’t have the energy.
Wish you well and remember you’re not alone.

Welcome to the forum. I can relate! I couldn’t believe what had become of my honesty and integrity once hooked. I believe the name of my very first thread here was liar liar pants on fire! And boy were they. I have come a very long way since then. My husband knows I have a problem but wasn’t very helpful when it came to actually dealing with it. So I relied on counseling with a gambling addictions specialist, Gamblers Anonymous, and thankfully I also had other family I could rely on. Not to mention all of the time I spent here. Together it all helped me to stop. You are definitely not alone in this. Keep posting and reading. Go back over older threads. The advice there is still bang on. Laura

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Hi Vegas,

Well done on looking for help.

Read the other stories here and you will see the sort oif things that have helped others stop gambling.

Trying to keep things hidden can in itself send people back to gambling. It soudns like your husband is aware of some past gambling? He might have heard the lies before but now you can show him by your actions that you mean to stop this time.

Actions like getting yourself banned from where ever it is you gamble. Actions like making yourself accountable so that you can’t gambel in secret. Restricting your access to funbds. Maybe getting to GA meetings.

The actions that will help you stop gambling are the same actions which can help rebuild trust etc.

Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.

Happy to see you have reached out for help. Its not an easy thing to do.
Keep reading and posting, it helps to write things down. You will get some great advice and tips on how to deal with life now that you have admitted your addiction.
I know you cant fathom telling your husband right now, I get it, I was you. In the end I had no choice. It was one of the most difficult things I have ever done. He stuck with me. Hes in the room with me right now dying of the man flu (insert rolling eye emoji here!!!)
That was 9 years ago.
You can have a happy gamble free life. Theres no magic wand, but if you are willing and open to the possibilities your life will change for the better.
Take care, Love K xx

I would stop worrying about lying to your husband and work on the lying to yourself first…

Jon

Cornish Lass well done on posting and sharing on here that’s a massive first step, read the forums and other people’s journals and you will see you are not alone, stay strong and keep sharing good or bad it helps, this addiction is a total nightmare but there is light at the end of the tunnel I can promise you that wish you well and take care.

Maverick