[Pauljames01]

Hi all,

ive finallt had to admit it, I’m a cumpulsive gambler and at my current rate, I’m on a path to destruction. 

It all started 10 years ago when I placed my first wager and For several years gambling was under control and I didn’t think anything off it, but then it all changed when online gambling became more prominent and an easier way to get a bet on a sporting event. 

mg Gambling went from the occasional wager at my local bookmakers to a daily problem online. 

I went from betting £50 a month witch for me was a very comfortable amount to wager to wagering £50 on a single bet and gambling most of my wage away. 

I now bet hundreds of pounds at a time on a single bet and at the time I think nothing of th consequence of the bet until I lose all my money and feel dirty and worthless and wonder what an earth I was thinking.

i always thinking I’ll just win the money back on the next bet and of course I don’t and when I do actually manage to do it, I’ll still just gamble it away.  

I dont know know where to turn or what to do??

im 30 years old next year and I feel like I’ve wasted my 20’s with my gambling problem. I don’t want to go into my 30’s with the over my head. 

Ive run up a pretty debt amount because of my gambling , I’m supposed to be getting married to my amazing fiancée next year and trying to save for my first house, how can I do these things if I can’t even control my cumpulsive gambling?? 

What do I do?? 

[Steev]

You stop gambling – is the easy answer. Easier said than done. I take it you have read around the site and know that you need to ban yourself from places where you might gamble. You need to curtail your use of money to gamble with (pass the responsibility of your finances onto your fiance – does she know about your gambling?) And you need to get support, not just from here but from your local area – a self-help group such as GA and / or counselling via your GP or (if you are in the UK) Gamcare.

I know from experience that none of this is easy – and for me there were a lot of slips along the way. I tried to put as much effort into my recovery as I did into my gambling and eventually it worked. It will work for you too – if you work it.

So that’s the practical advice. Talk to people on here via groups and get as much advice as you can and work on what will work for you. I wish you well.

[IRockVX]

Hey there,

You’re in the right place and Steev’s advice is rock solid.

I’ve been using this and several other online support groups and it’s helped a lot — a hell of a lot. I’m not totally out of the woods but the leverage cravings and the heavy emotions have over me is far less than it was before i finally took my first gasp for oxygen and reached out to groups like this.

I have great credit now and savings (when I started trading online years ago I would blow 50-80% of my savings easily and did indeed borrow money I couldn’t pay back on one big bubble pop–often after running it up 500% etc.), but getting support to strip gambling elements out of my life even going beyond markets themselves and interacting with people who have committed to stop has felt amazing. I’m truly grateful for this community. My losses and participation in gambling behavior are softening and the pockets of freedom are lengthening between slips bit by bit.

I’ve journaled a lot (and I mean a lot) in a short time — I think in addition to what Steev said, try to journal write and connect with support every time you even get cravings. Try to dig up the emotional roots and reframe yourself to reconnect with your original, clearer self. The deep feelings of shame and agony can be hard to share because this addiction makes you feel so alone and cut off from everyone and everything, but making the break to open up and reconnect to get your life back is so worth it.

To me, this is a forever commitment (recovery) — if you commit to it for life then people like you and me can end up gamble free like Steev.

Much love and support <3

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[RedBerry]

The best way to stop gambling and get out this vicious cycle. Break this nasty habbit and try to replace it with a positive habit that will benefit your life. Like sports, fishing, trips etc.

Don’t go any further with gambling as u can lose much more in life then u would like too. Cherish the things u still have. Accept the fact that u made mistakes and make it right. U still have a fiance that will support you.

I know u can do it! Be strong..

[Muallif]

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