Hi Tina
I am going to disagree with most people on here — but I don’t believe partners have to live in each other’s pocket.
I believe that we should keep our seperate interests and friends after we meet our partners… and you can go join him if you wish — that sounds fine to me .
I have always needed that kind of space . Some men don’t like all the psycho analysing we women do — I psycho analyse everything — my hubby kinda glazes over when I try discuss such things and somehow manages to watch football out of the corner of his eye .
You partner is with you because he want to be — it’s that simple.
I hope you get your financial plan sorted . If it’s a choice between letting your partner help you out and losing your house — pleAse let him help . You can pay him back — it’s not forever .
Tina , you say your partner is a practical person — the help he can give you may be practical but it is help jus t the same And his way of showing that he cares .
Sometimes in life it’s nice to just go with the flow- if his kind offer relieves some stress for you — that can only have a positive impact in your relationship.
I hope this helps — I just thought it might be useful to get an alternate opinion .