[twilight16]

This is a piece I wrote a few months.
It’s hard to think there’s one. When its highly glamorized, especially on billboards, radio and TV commercials and films. However, there is. It’s a side of gambling that isn’t seen on billboards, or warned about on radio or TV commercials or films.
So what is it? You may ask.
The ugly is when a person becomes addicted to gambling.
Quickly their one desire is to gamble, looking for their next bet. Remember those anti-drug advertisements in the late 80’s showing an egg in a frying pan, warning viewers about the effects of drug use, saying, „This is your brain on drugs”. Decades later the same ad could be used for gambling addiction, with a simple change, „This is your brain when gambling”.
Researchers says a person with a gambling addiction, is attracted to the same chemical spell as a drug addict and an alcoholic. Feeling the same euphoric sensations when they gamble, soon afterwards they suffer from withdrawal, having the urge to repeat. It’s a vicious cycle, one that is hard to break.
The compulsive gambler doesn’t pass out when gambling, like a drug addict or alcoholic when they have had too much to drink. They can completely gamble their bank accounts until there is no money left.
This is a devastating reality, many families face. It’s not uncommon for a compulsive gambler to gamble away a families savings in less time, it takes to watch a TV show. When a person becomes addicted to gambling, they are not the only ones who suffer from emotional and financial stress. Their family suffers too.
Bills go unpaid, creditors call home, children hear their parents fight behind closed doors, listening in utter horror as their parents argue about money. The levelheaded spouse is left trying to keep the family together, struggling with mounting debts, feeling pushed in a corner by the compulsive gambler’s demands, trying to keep the family from breaking apart.
The once comfortable home is now consumed with financial stress. Children experience high levels of anxiety, leaving them wondering if things will ever get better.
So yes, there is a very ugly side to gambling. Nobody thinks they will become addicted, but it happens. And when it does, lives change for not only them, but their families, who struggle with the gambler’s consequences.
I know the ugly side to gambling real well, because my father is a gambling addict. I lived with his gambling addiction, trying its hardest to always gamble what we had at home.
He unfortunately, never believed he had a gambling problem.

[Anonim]

I have read this post a few times twilight and found it really annoyed me- I wanted to write a good put down!! It has played on mind and catapulted me back to my own childhood.
It annoyed me because it filled me with shame at my own failings.
I grew up with a CG mum. I went to secondary school with trainers that were two sizes too big and I felt really stupid wearing them as I looked down on my big long feet. My shoes were white summer ones dyed black but which the white peeked through on.
My tracksuit was a horrible old one belonging to my older sister. My skirt was a „woman’s” skirt which had been really cheap- I longed for a normal school skirt, in the correct shade of grey, with little pleats.
I never really had new clothes but my little sister always seemed to have lovely things ( bought in bulk after a win no doubt)
Yet suddenly out of the blue my dad decided I deserved extra pocket money .. Like a lot extra. I started to buy my own clothes and always had nice things to wear. The shame of the trainers etc kinda left me . He always said don’t tell ur mum. I thought she would tell him off for spoiling me . I thought he was a dad who saw nothing .
I can’t believe the same scenario is playing out now in my marriage ..it’s maybe not so bad as i earn a good salary but this addiction has stolen so much happiness for us . Every pay day I try to buy stuff for my son. This week he will be getting some new hoodies and a summer coat.i have learned that the money might not be there later in the month.. I don’t trust myself to still have money later in the month..by hook or by crook I try to keep up with his extra curricular activities.
Sometimes this has meant filling the car and heading off to a car boot sale hours before the rest of the world has awakened! All this extra stress when I throw money away to casinos.

But the stress I live with surely impacts on him. The self inflicted stress… And yet I still gamble ..
I so want to stop ..sometimes my posts on here are angry , resentful etc.
thank you for sharing . I feel so guilty all the time I forget that I am also a victim of this disease . I am wondering if it would’ve helpful for me to revisit my childhood, the rages, etc on the f and f forum?
I still can’t visit home without dragged to a casino . In all honesty dragged is the wrong word.. Once it is mentioned I can’t wait to go.

So twilight . Thank u for sharing ! Thank u for taking the time to post on this forum . It has brought back memories and just maybe addressing some of these things will help me to stop repeating the same mistakes..

[Liberty]

Hi Twilight
I don’t think there would be a person here who hasn’t lived with the ugly of gambling.
We are here because we have all overstepped the line from normal supposedly social gambling into that ugly vile place of addiction, terrible things I have done which are completely alien to me as a person in recovery, from this ugly vile compulsive gambling, I have much regret, remorse guilt over so much that has happened over the last few years of my life fully aware of what my gambling caused those closest to me, I don’t think that any of us here need any reminder of that, I am sorry that your father never thought he had a gambling problem, that must be very painful for you.
I never knew that gambling could become an addiction if I had known that all those years ago, I would never have gambled, I am a level headed person with an addiction that I am addressing every day of my life , none of us are perfect whether cg or not. No, the gambler is not the only one to suffer, I do know that. Thank you for sharing your Writing.

[Autor]

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