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My name is Jamie I’m a compulsive gambler my last bet was last night on the roulette were I lost 4000 pound once again it starts from a silly football bet then to slots then to the wheel for quick money back, times it works other times it don’t I’ll say around 6 months ago I must of lost another 5k last night I lost 4k the money I’ve lost from betting is unreal I’m a hard working man with a good job and I provide for my 2 kids and my Mrs and always will I’m in around 18k debt at the moment i had so many silly forts when I lose its my family the reason why I’m still here I’ve attended Ga meetings before and I stopped for 6 months had a slip when back then didn’t go back again after last night I’ve just had enough now I want to clear my debts start going on holidays look at buying my house and try move forward there not a lot of people out there that understands how hard this is to get though the addiction is a disease that will never be cured I’ve now got some Barriers in place that is going to help me all my betting sites are close bank login all change I have no control over the money I earn if I want something I need to show what I spent it on I’m sick to death of the mood swings as when I gamble my kids can see the effects of it I chase I shake my heart hurts every spin them near misses from that number that will get you your money back before you know it u need to deposit again you look at the last spin that 8 played while you deposited when you have no money on it the most money I’ve had on a single number is 250 pound my spins are around 600-800 pound when chasing money like 8k I’ve got lucky a few times and got my money back but there always that time when it cleans you dry u wake up the next day to your alarm you don’t even want to get up you fink what’s the point I know what this is doing to me I don’t want my kids to grow up remembering what I was like I don’t want them to fink gambling is a good thing I need to somehow stop the diease is not curable I try to mange my bets but I just can’t do it I can lose 30 pound and leave it I have to win and make money but it’s cost me so much in life I’m 26 and without gambling I could of had such a good start in life I don’t want my kids to follow in my shoes I need to stop I look forward from some of your experience and Replys I’m looking forward to tomorrow and being day 2 gamble free one day at a time cheers for taking the time to read this thanks Jamie
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You are not alone pal i am going through same situation as yours and i know how hard it is. You have taken very brave step deleted all accounts and changed all log ins which is very positive thing. I am also trying to forget the money i lost but still struggling.
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Hello Jamie and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties youre currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if youre new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. Were in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like youre not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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Just try to forget the money which you lost this is what i am trying to do. I was also thinking same as you that i will gamble if i win i leave and will not gamble but , in back of my mind i always thinking until i lose badly i would not learn and finally it happened for good hopefully
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Best thing to go to counselling this is what i arranged for myself
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Hello JWBluies,
The good news is that you know you can stop gambling. You did it before so you can do it again. You also know what helped before – get back to those meetings. The important thing to remember this time is that if we need help to stop gambling then it is also important to keep using support to maintain recovery. Stay with the meetings, keep posting here as well and you can be stronger still.
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jwblues,
Well done for sharing how you feel, I understand also how you feel, I am a compulsive gambler, I am 39 and have been gambling since I was around 14, I have a wife and two children and can relate to where you are, I don’t need to tell you as you already know but if you don’t stop it doesn’t get any better my friend, I am heavy into loan sharks at the moment and like you I have a fairly good job and have had a fairly good job all my life (although work very hard to earn my money) I should have a nice house all paid for (renting at present) should have savings in the bank (have none), should have many things but gambling takes everything away from us and if we let it will also take are wives, children and our souls.
I very rarely talk about money as sometimes it can be a trigger to many (me included) but lets just say if I had never gambled in life I would have a nice 5 bedroomed house (in my current area) fully paid for and have 3-4 nice cars parked outside also completely paid for………..but thats life and I only need 3 bedrooms for now and can only ever drive one car at a time (no matter how much I brag about how good I am), life has this way of working itself out for you………it just is how it is.
In truth I am not bitter (many people are and I understand that) but I am here and sharing with you now and that is all that maters (after 7 operations to sort out on ongoing issue I have….afraid to say still ongoing) and also a couple of very close misses of departing from the world I consider myself „A Lucky Man”, everything we are is inside us, it’s not made up of what we have, I also believe that the struggles we have in life make us better people, like the saying goes „we bring nothing into the world and we can take nothing out” I suppose all that really means is what we do with our lives whilst we are in the world is all that matters.
I wish you well my friend and really hope you can get your life back on track, I know we don’t mean to hurt the people we love but with doing what we do…we do, thanks for sharing and keep posting, you are a good person I am sure just got caught up in a really bad addiction, I am a lot older and still fighting to stay gamble free one day at a time.
I dont preach as that is not me but all I will say is „I keep walking down the same road and I expect a different ending but strangely enough the ending is always the same!”
If nothing changes then nothing changes………..these words I type I could do with reading myself everyday.
Wish you, your wife and your children all the very best in the world, you have your whole life ahead of you, well done for confronting your problems at such an early age it took me many years to admit I had a problem.
Maverick
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I must have been right around your age when I lost around the same amount in a similar time frame. I wish I would of found my way out back than because I would of saved a lot of time, money and pain. I am now 44 and just shy of 5 months gambling free time. Life isn’t perfect but it’s so much better. I sometimes wonder what my life would have been like if I would of been able to stop sooner but I am learning to let go of the past and move forward. You are young and have your whole life ahead of you so please don’t end up like me, wishing you would of stopped at 26. Your on the right path now, (so was I at your age but I got complacent time and time again , I would quit, get help, think I could control it and end up worse off.. Year after year). Anyways I hope your story ends up different. I wish you nothing but success in recovery.
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Hey mate, well done on 4 weeks clean. The first few weeks are always the hardest and the urges and temptations will get milder as you coast along. Just remember not to ever get complacent and keep all your blockers away. Don’t get deterred if you ever have very strong urges momentarily or (and I hope you never will) relapse – these are very normal. As long as you overcome then and learn from each one (learn about your triggers – most of them are related to stress, pressure, boredom, greed or a false sense of security – and mostly importantly, how to control or deny them).
One step at a time. Keep your blockers up and mind vigilant. You’ll get through this. I’m 27 without a family and it’s hard enough. Although of course I also consider how my parents have helped me all my life and I don’t want to let them down. You’ve got not only yourself but your partner and kids to look out for. Don’t let them down and be the man they can look up to.
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