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I was at the topic session this afternoon & it was about Resentments & the importance of letting go of them.
In the conversation the topic of forgiveness came up.In my personal experience of recovery I had to learn not to hold onto resentments as I know they are very dangerous for me & could easily take me back out gambling.Here are two pieces of info that I read from the Mayo Clinic that I wanted to share also have included the site where you can read the whole article on "Forgiveness.A neat saying a GA member told me in early recovery about resentments towards poeple that I felt wronged me is "Holding a resentment against someone is like letting them live rent free in your head.The person who think wronged you most likely doesn’t even know they hurt our feelings or did you wrong.So when you focus on the resentment against them it only hurts you.Also in early recovery in addition to forgiving those people I thought wronged me & I had to learn to forgive myself.Better to forgive & move on.Have a great weekend.
How do I reach a state of forgiveness?
Forgiveness is a commitment to a process of change. A way to begin is by recognizing the value of forgiveness and its importance in your life at a given time. Then reflect on the facts of the situation, how you’ve reacted, and how this combination has affected your life, health and well-being. When you’re ready, actively choose to forgive the person who’s offended you. Move away from your role as victim and release the control and power the offending person and situation have had in your life. As you let go of grudges, you’ll no longer define your life by how you’ve been hurt. You may even find compassion and understanding.
Forgiveness: Letting go of grudges and bitterness
What happens if I can’t forgive someone?
Forgiveness can be challenging. It may be particularly hard to forgive someone who doesn’t admit wrong or doesn’t speak of his or her sorrow. If you find yourself stuck, it may help to write in a journal, pray or use guided meditation. You may want to talk with a person you’ve found to be wise and compassionate, such as a spiritual leader, a mental health provider, or an unbiased family member or friend. You may also want to reflect on times you’ve hurt others and on those who’ve forgiven you. Keep in mind that forgiveness has the potential to increase your sense of integrity, peace and overall well-being.
To read more of this article visit http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/forgiveness/MH00131/NSECTIONGROUP=2– 30/07/2011 07:26:37: post edited by harry.

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