Hi Ruzsche
It is often very hard for a mother not to enable when she has a family who need her to care for them. Your mother is vulnerable, she is being taken advantage of in a terrible way and I feel for her.
Do you have other family to support you – uncles or aunts who would be prepared to intervene on your behalf?
How old are all your siblings; are you all united on taking action? I am wondering, if you have enough family support and adult siblings, if an intervention with your father would be possible. Interventions have been known to work but they are not for everybody and your father’s bullying tactics might mean it is not a path you wish to take. An intervention is where everybody sits down with your father and tells him that enough is enough.
I am not suggesting that your mother should leave but why is a separation for her not possible; she is obviously very talented and capable in that she is keeping the home running in the face of great adversity?
I’m afraid that sometimes the only way to keep someone away is to use the law – is this an option?
Please keep posting. Your situation is very difficult and I hope sharing will give you greater strength to cope.
Velvet
