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Hy everybody , English is not my first language sorry if im gonna misspel things
My gambling addiction started 15years ago i was 23 at the time and making a lot of money at that age by that time i had around 100k in savings and life was beautifel
then one night me and a friend went drinking, he suggested we go to a local casino to drink and play a little roullete
I was Blackout and really dont remeber much other then waking up in the casino with 5k in the roullete machine, i won around 4k that evening
the next night ive gone back to that casino and won another 3k i couldent belive it, in the first week of my gambling i guess i made around 10k profit
then came the losses…..
2k-3k-5k-10k every night
somehow i mannaged to stil have 15k in savings account, i was earning very well for my age
After 15 years betting on and off this is my problem: i can go 3-4 months without gambling the relapse in one night of drinking
I really want to kick this habbit , i suffer from depression to, and drinking and gambling only make it worse
THIS IS DAY 1 For me im gonna login everyday to keep me motivated
Thank you all and god bless you all
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Well done for going 3 or 4 months without gambling. I found it hard not to gamble every day … but we are all different. I guess if you are gambling occasionally, then it makes sense to look at what is causing you to go out drinking and then gambling and end these behaviours. If you have some money left could you afford to go for counselling to look into this? If not – you may be able to access free counselling depending in which country you are in. Other than that there may be support groups locally that could help.
It would be easy to say – don’t drink and then you won’t gamble – but I know how difficult this is at times. Perhaps when you know you are going for a drink – only take the money you need to get by – no extra money means you will not be able to gamble. Keep cards etc at home. Try and bar yourself from the casinos – this is usually possible. I am sure others with follow with more suggestions. Keep strong and take care.
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Hi, Gosh really sounds like my story. Well at least the opening chapter. I also won around 10-15k in my first few weeks of gambling online and then lost it all and some. Paid off the 4K overdraft I had used and never looked back.
Then recently, 7 years after my first episode of gambling, I started playing small amounts again. Won around 10k and surprise surprise end up losing around 19-20k. But collectively over the month from other sites, probably in the region on 25-26k
All I can say is never again. You are on the right path by coming on this site and can kick the habit. Be strong and keep sharing your story.
What comforts me is that I can speak openly with you all about my problem and losses. I can’t speak about it to my family or friends for fear of being judged and or rejected.
I will say with confidence today that I finally realise that those big wins for us were actually losses. Big losses and that money will never come back. I don’t intend to chase them and find peace in the fact that I am healthy and have a beautiful family.
Find the positives in your life and focus on those. Nurture them and be happy you are alive and well.
Gambling will only lead to heartache, anguish and regret. That’s what I have realised. I will only be a loser if I depend on them filling any gaps in my Life
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Hello Radubarlad and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums
Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!
Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.
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if you can find ways of kicking the drinking slowly and that perhaps will also stop the impulsive gambling
for me, even if I don’t drink, my impulsiveness and general love of money led me to my current state. Luckily I’m licking my wounds and trying to read stories on this forum to forever block my mind from turning to online gambling for life.
if my husband did it I think I’d have found it so hard to forgive him as I am such a saver. But the fact that I did it disgusts me to the core. I cannot recognise myself in this act. It’s like someone telling me I murdered some one. It feels that alien and horrific.
Please never waste another penny of yours on those phony sites. As you rightfully said…in fact the winning was actually losing. 38 is still young, you can rebuild and never look back.
I’m 35 and I still want 2-3 more children. I cannot even allow gambling into the equation. Imagine juggling children, with that nasty habit that consumes us all, looming over my head. NO WAY!!! I’d rather have peace, honesty, sleep instead of that fake sense of gain or ‘winning’.
Focusing on my closest relationships, my husband, a future home for my family, hard work and hard earned money is what will nurture my soul and bring me closer to my goals In life.
family matters to me above all and my honesty and care for them. The rest is secondary
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I’ve watched my family member battle with an opioid addiction and lose his friends to overdoses. The heartache and loss is mind numbing. I too an an addict but I am addicted to online slots . I can quietly lose everything I have and no one will be the wiser. Try living with someone who is an alcoholic and you will have a different opinion of your situation. It is hard but you can rise above it. You have the strength deep within you you just have to find what switches the light on in your soul to stop you from hurting yourself. You say God bless. Look to your faith for answers.
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I also feel sometimes that I somehow wish to walk the path of self destruction. I had enough money to get by, why gamble? Why blow all that money away? I could have gone on holiday or bought a new car or invested the money in by husbands businesS
Been feeling so low all evening and my husbands noticed the distance. I seem to be there but not there in mind.
feeling low but don’t want to gamble. Just wish I could get that money back. Wish I could make it up to my family somehow.
Radubarlad when you say had, do you mean you no longer have those ppl in your life?
Be strong, we have to be, it’s the only way we will mend. Time will heal us but only if we stay away from gambling. let us not throw ourselves back into the fake world of fast money making machines that in fact leave you at a loss. Be strong
Got so upset today as I received three parking fines of £300 in total. Then rememberEd I’d blown £1000’s GamblinG. But those fines somehow bugged me, felt like it was the parking company stealing from me this time and without my consent this time. I don’t want to lose a penny more now after the dent I’ve left in our bank balance.
please god get me out of this depressive cloud.
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I think it is self defeating to call these problems we have as stupidity. We are human. We have chemical and physiological responses that we sometimes cannot control. The issue is finding the ways that we can control it and seeking them out. You need to find a way to rescue yourself from the alcohol before it physically kills you and the cg before it financially wipes you out. I meant to give you hope when I spoke of other addictions as people recover from those and live their lives in recovery happy and aware of their limitations. We can too and we must. We just cant gamble. I often watch shows of people that are morbidly obese and think „why cant thry just stop eating”? Same as us. Why cant we just stop? WE NEED TO STOP. I NEED TO STOP. YOU NEED TO STOP. YOUR LIFE DEPENDS ON IT. What more is there to say. Approach this like your life depends on it
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The alcohol you will need help with. The physical manifestations when you try to quit will be hard and you are more likely to relapse. Is there no one that you can go to for the alcoholism?Perhaps while addressing this you will uncover more of why you gamble as well. Dont try to go it alone. So many people suffer from this and there are so many options out there for you. I will try to be here to hear your thoughts but I am not qualified to help you. Running girl was right about just not quitting. You have to do more. You have to replace the activity with something else and in the process make yourself a better person. Of those things you can be proud and I pride you will find your strength. Find what you can do to make yourself proud of you and replace the self loathing with something much more worthy.
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Hope you stay strong and are well. Keep posting and continue with your journey.
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Just checking in. How is it going? Its the start of day 3 for me too. Here is to being each others check in
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Have you checked the online avaialablity for aa? I looked up aa online and they do have help available for those who are not able to make meetings. Please check and see what’s available for you and utilize what’s at your disposal to help yourself out.
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GREAT JOB! Every day that you dont gamble or drink will make it easier to break the cycle. You didn’t get into this mess all at once so it will take time to get out. Make a calendar with a weekly goal to start and cross off each day as you finish. Make it visible that you have done something as well as NOT done something. Everyday that I wake I know from the instant I open my eyes if I have done well the day before. If not, I don’t want to get up. I dont want to face the day. If I have, like today, then I am up and ready to face the day with life and hope. Dont always make this about what you’re not doing but make this about what you have done – treated yourself with love and respect and stopped the cycle for one more day. Keep strong and we wait to hear about your new day.
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You’re doing well. You have decided that enough is enough. In the end, it’s all about the choices we make, although our addiction will make it hard to make the right choice. That’s why I believe that keeping our focus on one day at a time is working for us addicts. Just for today, I will not give in to any urges that lead me to gamble. Just for today, I will let go of my past, etc. you get the idea 🙂
I wish you the best, Radubarlad!
– Chris
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Just joking!!! Hope you fall asleep content and wake up happy knowing you beat back the animals one more day. Dont let others make you feel like drinking because when you do you feel worse which makes you feel lower than they are. Hold upud head high and kniwxthsg you are better this one day and try to be better every day. Hang in there
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Take care and good evening(I hope). Are you feeling any better?
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Is all ok?
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Hey! Hope you didn’t have to hard a time these last two days. Friday night can be a hard one to avoid drinking. Keep us up to date on your progress.
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Was worried that you had given in to temptation. Know that even if you fail you can still try again. I’ve been 5 days now and will keep trying. Hope you find the love in yourself to say no to your urges
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If you read on you will read that most of us have relapsed more than once. We all try. It’s not logical to think that you can give up years of behavior in one try. If you went 7 days without drinking then that is 7 days you didn’t drink! I have relapsed many times but if I go 7 days without gambling that is 7 days that I didn’t. Then I try for 10. Soon it will get easier and each time I fail I hope that I gain a little more resolve not to do it again. Sleep it off and try to replan the next week so that it does not happen again.
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How are you doing? Hope that you are back on track
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I reread you origina message and you wrote
“ THIS IS DAY 1 For me im gonna login everyday to keep me motivated“
how are things for you Now since you realised you need extra support?
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In the beginning when I suggested GA (and others suggested AA) you said you couldn’t do this because you were from a small town in a small country without this support.
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nNow it is 2020 and there is a virus and GA (and I am sure AA as well) have gone on-line with their meetings – so support is available from wherever you are. Please take advantage of this and go to a meeting. You don’t have to say anything (although it would be better if you could tell your story so that advice could be tailored to your needs) just listen and hopefully learn. The link is here for GA – https://gamblersinrecovery.com I wish you well.
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