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    • #44316
      charles
      Moderator

      I have heard many people, here and at GA,say they are afraid of their next bet.  I’m not; my recovery isn’t based on fear it is based on acceptance.

      I accept that Compulsive Gamblers can’t gamble.

      I accept that I am a Compulsive gambler.

      Hence I accept that i can not gamble.

      Having accepted those facts I have nothing to be afraid of.

      I would even say that I no longer have a gambling „problem.”  I have a gambling addiction.  By using the support and taking the actions that helped me stop gambling, by continuing to use the support and taking the steps that help me stay stopped I can continue to enjoy recovery.

      I have a gambling addiction – by accepting that fact and acting on it it has stopped being a problem.

      As a compulsive gambler there is just one thing in life I can not do, not such a big deal really.

    • #44318
      kin
      Uczestnik

      Hi Charles,

      Thank you for this message.

      This call for obedience.

      Regardless what happen, gambling is not an option.

    • #44319
      charles
      Moderator

      I have surrendered as well Sara.

      An analogy I have heard somewhere, or read here,is that if I got in the ring with Anthony joshua he would beat the hell out of me. If I was stupid enough to stand up or get back in the ring then he would beat me again. Now I might be able to do some ducking and diving, maybe occasionally hurt his knuckles with my chin, but he would beat me every time. Stop getting in the ring and I am fine and free to get on with everything else life has to offer. Same with gambling – I have surrendered to the bookies and Im not getting back in that ring. 🙂

    • #44320
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept my weakness but it is no excuse.
      Gambling is not an option, solution or answer.

    • #44321
      finding_laura
      Uczestnik

      I accept that I cannot gamble again. That is a biggie for a compulsive gambler or someone who is addicted to gambling. No longer can I say „what’s the harm”? I will not be sucked back in again.
      Laura

    • #44322
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept that no man is perfect, but it is no more my excuse.
      Gambling is not an option, it is not my solution and answer.

    • #44323
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept that I cannot escape the consequences of gambling. Gambling is no longer my option.

    • #44324
      Monica1
      Uczestnik

      I accept that I cannot gamble responsibly again. I accept that gambling is not an option ever for me.

    • #44325
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept that I will have to endure and tolerate the pain and suffering of staying gamble free.
      Gambling is not an answer and solution to these pain and suffering.

    • #44326
      charles
      Moderator

      Hi Kin,

      Hope you are well. I would have to offer a different opinion on your last comment. Staying gamble free is not something I have to „endure and tolerate.”

      Recovery isn’t a punishment, it is for enjoying. Just one thing in life I can’t do. We need to fill our gamble free time with fun enjoyable things. A variety of things, better choices so we don’t get hooked on something else.

      I enjoy my recovery, gambling brought me pain and suffering. Stopping has brought me joy and happiness.

    • #44327
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept and rejoice in suffering when I no longer self medicate or escape with alcohol and gambling.

      There is no excuse to gamble.

    • #44328
      Monica1
      Uczestnik

      I really like Charles definition of recovery and I shall tell myself daily that gamble bought me pain and suffering, recovery brings me joy and happiness.

    • #44329
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I admit that I have treated gambling lightly, I was morally corrupt; (my eyes are useless – my mind is blind).

      I pretend that there was nothing wrong; I believes that it was ok to gamble and excuse myself saying” No one is perfect.”

      I suppressed the truth, I block out any memories and feelings of my gambling going out of control and me losing heavily and losing everything. I was running away from doing the right thing.

      I accept that gambling is not a solution and an answer. Regardless of what happen, gambling is not an option.

    • #44330
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I am a compulsive problem gambler and I accept that I cannot gamble

    • #44331
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I do not need to understand why I should not gamble
      I only need to accept that I cannot gamble.

    • #44332
      kin
      Uczestnik

      Regardless of how I feel and think… If I become impulsive, and do not care anymore, I must quickly switch to doing other thing that is not destructive before I am cooked.

      I accept that „I” cannot gamble.

    • #44333
      kin
      Uczestnik

      I accept this fact and truth; right now, my bills are getting paid but everything shall change when I start gambling.

      I am contented and grateful to be gamble free today.

    • #44334
      finding_laura
      Uczestnik

      Good to hear the bills are paid and that for today you are feeling contented.

      I too accept the fact that I can’t gamble. Because it is almost impossible for me to stop. And only after much suffering and character loss have I been able to do so. I don’t know if I have another recovery in me. I must focus on maintaining my current recovery.

      It has been an expensive stressful week. But thankfully being in recovery means my head is present and I am not tempted to try and win my way out of it. Dreaming and scheming. Which usually led to disaster.

      thanks for sharing your thoughts. Acceptance today means believing the truth or fact that I can’t gamble.

      Good to read your post.

    • #44335
      kin
      Uczestnik

      A man named Sei Weng owned a beautiful mare which was praised far and wide. One day this beautiful horse disappeared. The people of his village offered sympathy to Sei Weng for his great misfortune. Sei Weng said simply, “That’s the way it is.”

      A few days later the lost mare returned, followed by a beautiful wild stallion. The village congratulated Sei Weng for his good fortune. He said, “That’s the way it is.”

      Some time later, Sei Weng’s only son, while riding the stallion, fell off and broke his leg. The village people once again expressed their sympathy at Sei Weng’s misfortune. Sei Weng again said, “That’s the way it is.”

      Soon thereafter, war broke out and all the young men of the village except Sei Weng’s lame son were drafted and were killed in battle. The village people were amazed as Sei Weng’s good luck. His son was the only young man left alive in the village. But Sei Weng kept his same attitude: despite all the turmoil, gains and losses, he gave the same reply, “That’s the way it is.”

    • #44336
      kin
      Uczestnik

      The only thing predictable and certain about gambling was debts , losing all and regrets. I am very happy and grateful with the way things are right now. I accept that my meager income dont leave any for the future, but it is enough to pay for the next bill and gambling would change everything.  I am not going to exchange the peace and contentment I have now for stress and misery.

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