It must be very frustrating, I’m not sure why there is a misunderstanding of what is a consistent arrangement unless of course it is a deliberate misunderstanding.
You’ve tried your best, you can’t make him be reasonable, perhaps e-mail is one worth trying as at least then you will have a record of all of this in the event that you need it in the future.
Having said that often the written word is more easily wrongly interpreted
I think there’s a time when you have to accept that you have done all you can, as long as you get on with your life and it doesn’t dictate plans for you and your daughter I fail to see what else you can do which will not leave you dancing to his tune
Jenny