[Dzay De]

Hello everyone, my name is Dzay and Im a 22 year old student from the Philippines. I have been sports betting for quite some time now but I only bet small amounts but it always starts at small bets. Basically I’m  in debt for 70kphp (1350$) and that seems little for someone in the states, but here? thats already a lot since it is already equivalent to 5months worth off salary for a minimum wage earner. I have already stopped gambling and I am threatened every single day. I jokinglytell my friends that my breakfast is every morning is “Wheres the money or else were gonna tell your family”. Im trying my best to hide it from my mom since she doesnt have that much money and shes s single parent trying to pay my bills. I dont have a job since its almost impossible to find one here especially being a highschool graduate, Im on the verge of losing my close friends cause I borrowed money from them and still havent paid them back and they also need it to since they are also students and some people suggest that I should bet again so I could get my payments from Nba finals. I dont know what to do, Im stressed for almost 2weeks to the point where sometimes I vomit for worrying to much, I already left college cause if I havent, I was on the verge in going insane, the thing that keeps me going is my mom and I make myself drunk daily just to escape this miserable world of mine for a little time. I cant cant, I cant borrow big moneys cause I aint got no colaterals. I JUST WANNA DIE.

P.s. I only bet NBA

[Steev]

If you are feeling suicidal please call someone before anything else. There is a helpline – Metro – Manila LifeLine Centre
tel: 02 -896 – 9191
and
cell phone 0917 -854 – 9191

You also can contact Gamblers Anonymous in Manila – *FRIDAY*

Makati G.A.- Machiato Group
7:30 PM
Bo’s Coffee Shop
1st Floor Glorietta 5 Ayala Center
Makati, Metro Manila, Philippines
Open Meeting

I think you need to rethink your strategy as it really isn’t working. You are feeling bad about yourself because you can’t pay money back – so you gamble and drink which is costing more money. This can’t go on.

Consider telling your mother what is going on – she would rather hear this than to hear that you are in hospital or worse because of your own actions or the actions of those you owe money to. Can you bar yourself from the places you gamble at? Try not to carry money with you and find something else to do with your time.

But please get help and support locally and don’t do anything drastic that you will regret.

[dunc]

Hello and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

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And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[dunc]

Hi Dzay De

Id just like to echo Steev’s comments. Please talk. Steev has given you a few great options of support Id like to add some more

In Touch Community Services is a leading provider of Mental Health Services in the Philippines. Established in 1980, it is a volunteer-driven organisation dedicated to promoting mental health and offering care and treatment to persons suffering from mental and emotional distress. https://www.gamblingtherapy.org/en/touch-phillipines-crisis-support-and-counselling

Pagcor. PAGCOR can help relatives of players or the players themselves deal with problem gambling through Exclusion Orders that ban persons from playing in casinos and other gaming venues nationwide.
(63 2) 521-1542

Dzay De, GT isnt geard up to be a crisis line, but we and our members would love to be able to support you but again like Steev Id urge you to seek local support to deal with your suicidal ideation

Kind Regards

[Dzay De]

It has been 11 days since I posted this and I still havent made any progress but I have been thinking of some type of solution but it comes with a great price. I will tell my mother everything that has happened and I will find a job just to pay her back if she can find someone who can lend her the money. The thing is, Im going to quit school in order to work (call center) and stay a little bit away from my friends in order to focus and to ease their minds since they also are affected by the negative aura surrounding me, they also try to hide me and lie to the people who I owe money to. That will be my ultimate price. Im a total extrovert and I feed my happiness by being with my friends and with other strangers since I will always be a chameleon where I can fit and befriend any stranger in the area. That is the thing that is holding me back, that I cant go to where I want to go but I think I need to let that go in order to move forward with what I have planned.

Im gonna tell my mother this evening after I post this reply. And one more thing SUICIDE WAS NEVER AN OPTION for me but it only crossed my mind, the greatest fear I have is death and suicide would probably never happen to me, but anyway thank you very much. I will update this soon after I make some progress.

[Autore]

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