[marco11_07]

Hello,

I am 33 years old and I have started gambling since i was 18 (mainly on horse racing) at that time but since i’ve started working at the age of 23 it turned into Online Sports Gambling. I was reasonable at first but 5 years ago things started getting worse for me when i took a credit card supposedly taken for business trips and

gambled with it. From there on it was a downwards spiral to hell. Every month I was using my salary to inject into the credit card and bet with that amount again. I used up the credit limit everytime and was even on overdraft on that credit card.

Things got worse recently when my wife and I took a housing loan, and i have used up a quite hectic amount of the loan to bet on Online Sports again. I feel lost right now and ashamed of myself. I fear going back to my house and telling that to my wife because i know there’s no words to 

describe how she will feel at finding out i relapsed. We are in the course to have our second child in about 3 months and I feel lost. Can someone help me or counsel me please?

I have tried self-exclusion from betting sites first in 2014 but then got back on other betting sites in the meantime. I just self excluded again.

Thanks,

Marc

[velvet]

Hello Marcoll and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

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[Steev]

It is a good first step but you have a gambling problem and you NEED to do more than that.

Firstly, you need to consider handing your finances over to someone who will use it properly and not gamble with it. Your wife is the obvious person and I know it will mean telling her – but let’s be honest you are gambling with her future as well (and your children’s!) It is far better for her to be told by YOU that you have relapsed, than she finds out when things are far more difficult down the line. The second thing you need to do is to look at why you relapsed – what was the trigger, were there any warning signs. It is difficult to break this addiction alone and so talking to people who have experience in this area is needed. Contact Gamblers Anonymous or another self-help group in your area and get advice from them – or see if you can find a counsellor, preferably specialising in addiction.
Thirdly – you need to find an alternative to gambling in your life. Can I gently suggest that there is something there for you already. I know as a child of a compulsive gambler – how painful it felt to be second best to sports betting. Don’t let your kids feel the same way. I wish you well.

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