[xtyvmx]

I now know have a gambling problem and need to stop!

[xtyvmx]

Hi I’m a28 year old female with 2 children a loving partner over the last year my addiction has got worse and worse it first started when I played online bingo only playing once a week most I’d spend would be £10 then I.noticed slots played on them a few times had a few hundred pound wins then I lost intrest in the bingo cos it wasn’t a quick win like the slots were over time its got worse and it’s all Down to the slots and I’m still doing it.to this day I ban myself from sites but then find other sites till I blow money then ill ban it. I haven’t come out a winner for a few months now.cos I put it all bk in I’m really fed up with it feeling moody angry stressed also.lying to family.borrowing money to get by just because I have blow £70 here and there. I rest hate feeling like this so today is.my new day xxx

[xtyvmx]

But now I still think I am but other say diffrent xx

[xtyvmx]

I went. Straight to the supermarket bought all my food paid my dad what I owed him and trey my daughter to some.New clothes haha slots your.not getting my money this week it’s all gone boom!!

[xtyvmx]

Just I thought I could.stop whenever I wanted too but obviously I was going on day after day but always said to myself. I’ll just stop when I want too.

[charles]

Ok xt, I guess we have conflicting thoughts here:

First post:

“I now know have a gambling problem and need to stop!”

A later post:

“But now I still think I am (in control) but other say diffrent xx”

I guess you have to make a decision on those two things? Maybe look at the 20 questions they have on the GA website?

http://www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/content/20-questions

Let us know how you score, it may help you make up you mind as to the extent of the problem/ how much “control” any of us have.

Keep posting.

[xtyvmx]

I.got a 8 so I think I have a problem.now.

[charles]

Ok, well done on that realisation.

Now you have a 2nd question to ask/answer yourself. You will probably have read on other threads about this being a progressive problem. It’s true, if we carry on gambling the stakes get bigger, the amount of time we spend gambling gets longer. More importantly though the number of “Yeses” we score increases.

So the question we all have to decide on is – do we want to take the tough steps now? maybe some of the steps our addiction is giving us “reasons” not to take? Or later when we are deeper in trouble and those yeses increase?

You have banned yourself from sites? Great of course but as you have found, there are other sites. How about gettign a blocker for your PC? How about finding a way to make yourself accountable for your finances so that you can’t gamble in secret? Can your partner help with that?

The sort of thing that will help us stop gambling, like barriers, using support like here or GA etc serve a dual purpose. As well as making it hard for us to gamble they help start rebuilding trust etc. they give those around us cause to think “Hey, maybe he/she means it this time”

Keep posting and let us know the positive steps you are taking.

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