HI Debbie
If your son has a serious gambling problem, then his answer will probably be to gamble again to chase his debts.
It is important to keep his ‘good friends’ on side, he will need them. Maybe you could tell them that your son could use their calm approach. I personally feel that the more people who are willing to support the better. It is important though that they know not to give him any money because this will only feed his problem and they will probably never get their money back.
It is also important to know that your son does not want to have a problem with gambling, he neither asked for it nor wanted it, he is not to be blamed – any more than you.
He is in debt for a lot of money and being young, this will hurt. Maybe you could direct him towards our Gamblers group, facilitated by Charles, who will put him straight about what could happen to him if he continues gambling. I believe there is nothing like hearing from someone with experience.
I facilitate a group on Tuesdays and Thursdays 19.00-20.00 hours, (7-9pm) for the families of gamblers and I would be really pleased if you could join me. It is one to one, completely safe and private, it is really good to have a no-holds-barred conversation.
Your son is young enough to learn to control his problem before it takes a complete hold of him and gets harder and harder to control.
Speak soon.
Velvet