[Tony8]

Hi All This I guess is a cry for help, I’ve been a compulsive gambler for 32 years and I’m at my wits end, I’ve managed to stop/control for brief spells but always end back in this awful cycle which I know robs me of true freedom and happiness… I have a young son of 2 that is my world and know he deserves so much more than a Dad who throws money away, time for me to finally and completely stop this cycle. Any advice on ridding this from our lives would be much appreciated. Many thanks Tony

[I_Maverick]

Hi Tony

I am only 13 days into my latest batch of abstinance and I am in a personal hell of my own making at the moment. What is working for me is wife has access to all funds (cards, PayPal, online banking etc) and I have netnanny on my computers to block all access to gambling sites. I have never been a bookies or casino person.

I also attend GA 4 times a week. That helps a lot, there are great people there who understand. My issues at the moment are the terrible state of my own business which I have to close, as all the time I should have been looking for new clients I was gambling and now we have no work on. My wife is also leaving me after 3 years of being a CG and we have a small son a bit younger than yours.

Put blockers in place, don’t handle cash, self exclude from as many places as you can and go to GA. Say tro your self every morning « Just for today I will not gamble ». Say it « just for this hour » or « just for this 10 mins » whatever you need.

I had a lasp 13 days ago and before that I managed 18 days, so in the last 31 days I have gambled 1.5 hours but I lost a chunk of change in that time. I simply cannot bear to gamble anymore – it breaks my head, breaks my spirit and sucks me dry. I have so little self esteem and self worth left – I need to replenish them all.

Keep posting, join the groups when they are on, go to GA.

I am sure others will have words to say – be strong and think of your little one. I wish I had done that more.

All my love
Mav

[Auteur]

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