[NatalieJ]

Hi. I’m a 38 year old Mum of one who just cannot stop gambling online. 2 days after my montly wage is paid, I have no money left. I have to scrat around the rest of the month to buy food and anything my little girl needs. 

I am mentally exhausted. But I just can’t Stop. I don’t know how to stop. I excluded myself from a couple of sites but then just opened up accounts on other sites. 

Even when i win, I just gamble it again. I am in so much debtbut I still think that big win is all I need. 

nobody knows about this. I am in a debt management plan but my husband thinks my debt is about £5k due to a couple of bad loans. Its not. its £40k! 

I cant go to any meetings and I just don’t know whoto turn to to help me

[velvet]

Hello Natalie and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

As well as the forums New Members are invited to join Charles in the New Members Practical Advice Group On Mondays at 21:00 (UK) and Thursday at 19:00(UK)

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

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[kin]

How badly do you want to stop gambling?

Do you really want to stop gambling? Because when the gambling stop, the problem you are going to face everyday living life is not going to disappear and stop.

If the condition is not right, and there is great discomfort, stress, hardship, pain and suffering in your life. Are you going to self-medicate and return to gamble?

Are you ready to stop gambling regardless of how you feel and think every day?

Are you going to accept and live with this, not numb it with gambling.

When you are ready to start. You only need to stop gambling today, tomorrow you repeat the same thing. One day at a time.

Anyone can stop gambling, but the trick is to stay stop.

Blessings and love

Kin

[kin]

Chapter 1

I walk down the street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I fall in. I am lost, I am hopeless. It takes forever to find a way out.

Chapter 2

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I pretend I dun see it, I fall in again. I can’t believe I am in the same place. But I believe it isn’t my fault. It still takes a long time to get out.

Chapter 3

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I see it is there, I still fall in. It ‘s a habit. I know where I am. It is my fault, I get out immediately.

Chapter 4

I walk down the same street. There is a deep hole in the sidewalk, I walk around it.

Chapter 5

I walk down another street.

Where are you now?

[NatalieJ]

I think I am chapter 2…although I do know it’s my fault.

[Monica1]

Welcome to the forum. You are in the grip of an insidious addiction. It has gripped all of us on here but there is a way out. Has gambling got you licked? Can you admit that you are powerless over gambling and that your life has become unmanageable? Do you believe that a higher power can bring you back to sanity? The first three steps of GA. you stop by seeking support on the groups on here, by posting or going to GA. are you able to get counselling support? All of us have had multiple times of stopping only to start again. This is a progressive illness and on.y gets worse the longer we r in the addictive cycle. You can do it with support.

[AJ77]

Really sorry to hear you are struggling with this awful addiction.
If you really want to stop, you can. Just surrender and admit you are powerless over gambling. That is the first step.
You will never win your losses back. Even if you won 1 million pounds, it wouldn’t be enough, as being a compulsive gambler, you would give it back and continue gambling. It would just fuel the fire and prolong the misery.
I recently tried a new method to stop which focuses on the subconscious mind. I stopped for over a year and didn’t have the daily want and need to gamble. It worked for me. I’ve tried GA in the past which also gave me some success and I have lots of friends who have plenty of recovery in GA. Whatever works for you, then do it. If you have truly have had enough of gambling and you can admit you are powerless over gambling, then you can do this. Just please ask for help. As you deserve a life free from gambling and the torment it causes. Take care, Andy

[Auteur]

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