[Raix94]

Hello.

I am Raigo and i have been gambling since 19 years old.
Since i am being child, i always have watched sports with my dad and also doing sports. I know lots about sports, tennis, basketball, football. I am also fan of our city basketball club.
I started it, when my friend said, that he got friend who is making lots of money with sports betting. I was like, nice, i try also to make money with it. Did account, put 5 euros in it and started to gamble.
In first year if i didnt have the money, i didnt gamble, i always paid my taxes well and was no problem. Always liked to say to others how much i win and never talking about losing. Having a winning streak is good feeling and when you got a losing streak, you just bet to win all back. At 1 time i found, oh sh*t, i dont have money anymore for food. So i started taking some loans for money for food and gambling. So i was 21 years old and went to defensive forces 11 months and thought that i am not gambling anymore, because i dont have time for it and also no money, because i pay 1 loan and also some phone tax and i get only 100 euros per month. But i found out that i have time, so i start betting and i didnt have money so i took loan after loan after loan. And in 11 months i had lost about 3k. Everything what i won i also lost. Coming out from defensive forces 3. June 2017. Started to work and earning good money. Pay taxes and took loan about 1000 euros and absolute nightmare happened. I won 2,6k euros and after that also 1k more. I was in 7 heaven, gave my girlfriend about 500 euros and bought TV for my sick mother.
Thats only good thing what i did with this money. And what i did with other 2,5k.. LOST. So i thought i win it back, took loans and loans and loans. When i had payday, in work, i never payed the taxes and gambled and took also loans. Then i quitted, i banned myself from every site in our country and also i cannot go to casinos because my girlfriend said, that he cannot live like that anymore. I thought okay, i showed to her, that i am not doing that anymore, cannot log in nowhere. But i found 1 russian site, where i can bet. And nightmare started, lies, loans. And when i didn’t get the loan anymore, i took 1 of my friend about 1000 euros. I payed my taxes. But in this month i didnt pay taxes and i lost all the money and even my sick mothers money i also have lost. All of my losses are about 10k. Loan people call me every day and are sending messages and emails to pay the loans. But i dont have money anymore, i have broke up also with my girlfriend, because she cannot live anymore like that because she is buying all the food and i am gambling like hell. My mother doesnt know that she have 0 euros on her bank account, because she is sick and i have to pay her taxes in internet. I never forgive that to myself what i did with my mothers money. That is sick. I dont know what else to do, i got next 3 years full of taxes and not money for myself, for food, for anything :S
Today, i blocked myself in this russian betting site and booked a time in counselling. But this is all i know what i do. I am in 2500 euros deficit and making only about 1000 euros in month. I am so stressed and my hands are shaking! Thanks for reading!

[velvet]

Hello Raigo and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

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[vera]

Good to meet you in the group tonight Raigo.
Well done on looking for help.
Try to forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. I know how difficult that seems right now but when you stop gambling things will slowly change .
Get help with your debt repayments. It IS possible to stop gambling, one day at a time. It will take time to recover from all you have been through. Just focus on rest and sleep and living a simple life . There are no magic wands or no instant relief but as time goes by your life will improve, if you stop gambling and say
Just for today, I will not gamble!

[Monica1]

Good to meet you in group and well done for making the decision to quit this destructive addiction. Believe it or not your debts do sound very manageable and I have no doubt that over time you can replenish your mothers account. Keep posting and hope to meet you in group again.

[vera]

Just checking in to see how you are today, Raix?
Keep posting.

[Raix94]

Have made some progress.

I have been lying to my mother everything, but now i spoke to her and said about my addiction. First she cried, but she was okay with it, i said i am meeting counselor and i am self excluded from everything. I understand that she doesnt trust me right now, but when time goes away and she is seeing that her bank account is okay and i dont have to ask money everyday and she can keep money to herself, she’ll be happier then.

Then i spoke with my best friends that i have this addiction and they wished me good luck for taking care of it. They were very supportive. I said and warned them that its madness, whats going through your head, when you are betting and betting.

Yesterday also made huge step, that i called 1 of many loan giver companies( dont know else how to say it 😀 ) and made payment plan. Now i have to do 7-8 calls more. Tough and embarrassing to me. I got a plan for how i do it, i hope everything is going as i planned.

Got my mom bank account also covered. I spoke to her that i want to that she takes a loan, so i get my bigger bills payed and some money for food. She said okay. She took loan and i pay 40 euros per month for her loan. Its such a big relief because now i got money for food.

Its now my second day without betting and now i got money in my hands. I’m feeling a little urge but i have self excluded myself from everything so, i’m excited and looking forward what i’ll do with the money. Because past 2 months every cent of my money is going for taxes or for betting! Thanks for positive mind and interest in my actions!

[Monica1]

Well done raix for telling your mum and putting things in place to pay her back. Plus, you are now able to eat and survive which is good. I am sure it will not take long to get back on track one day at a time. Keep it up.

[Raix94]

Lost my wallet yesterday and i also called to loan givers and some of them refuse to make payment plans. I am so depressed right now. Dont know what to do. They want 100 euros i can only pay 50. And this wallet problem is BIG. Now i have to buy New cards and stuff. Everything is falling apartment.

[finding_laura]

Hi Raix,

well done on the steps you have taken so far. Losing a wallet can be a most difficult problem when we are not gambling! Have you checked with police to see if it might have been turned in? How much will it cost to get replacement cards. Is that something a friend or family member can help you with for now seeing as your circumstances? Do you have non profit credit counseling agencies where you are? Sometimes they can take all your debts and help make payment arrangements with your creditors or give you advice on what you can do. Check the resources pages here for where you live and see what kind of help may be available. Deep breath Raix. One step at a time. If taking it one day at a time is too much, break it down smaller. You have taken some big steps to stop the gambling madness. Keep going. You can do this!

Laura

[Monica1]

Let us know how you are getting on. If creditors refuse to accept your offer, say it is tough and pay them what you can afford anyway. Don’t give in to their threats. Creditors can wait and wait, mine have been waiting a very long time. If the alternative is bankruptcy they soon change their. I do. Keep saying no and pay them the 50 euros or so you can afford.

[i-did-it]

Hi Raix
When I contacted my creditors they were unhelpful also . Then one day I rang them and said « I am going to go bankrupt – you will get nothing- are u interested in trying a repayment plan first? » And Guess what? Every single one of them agreed.

Monica is right – what can they do? You have no money right now . Just focus on not gambling Raix – the other stuff can be sorted out once you have a bit of gamble free time behind you .
Also Laura’s advice was very good – is there a an agency or organisation which could help you sort out your debts?

It would take a lot of worry away

Keep strong

[Auteur]

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