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Stopping gambling is easy.
Here’s why;
– I am aware of the fact that my brain is affected by gambling
– I am depressed and gambling seems the only thing that gives me “pleasure”.
– I want to have money so that I can gamble. I want to win gambling so I can gamble bigger and/or longer. Winning gives me a pleasurable feeling.
– Because most of the time I lose, I get more depressed. Feeling more depressed wants me to gamble more.
– I am aware that there is no such thing as a free will. I am a slave to my brain. My brain is fed with gambling and has adapted to it.
– I am a slave to gambling and gambling is a losing game. This means the longer I keep gambling, the more I will lose.
– The more I lose, the more I feel miserable. The more I feel miserable, the more I want to gamble
Briefly, I’m a compulsive gambler
I feel ashamed, I am short-tempered, I feel depressed, I feel desperate, I am insecure, I have a lot of self-pity. Gambling is the cause of this, not the solution.
Stopping gambling is easy, all I have to do is not to gamble.
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Hi Dave. Stopping gambling is easy….. I did it LOTS of times!
It is staying stopped that is trickier and that’s where suing support comes in. Putting accountability and barriers in place to make it harder to gamble. To find other thigns to fill our time, address character traits that addiction might have caused and to work recovery.
Keep posting.
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Hi Dave
Stopping gambling is easy? Well of course it is, or at least it should be. Unfortunately as you know for us CG’s very little is easy or straight forward.
How have you managed to stay stopped for the last three days, have you spoken to anyone about your problem? Have you taken any steps to safeguard your money?
What you say makes sense mate by not gambling you are a winner, however unless steps are taken and boundaries are put in place to help protect yourself in the future, the door to gambling is kept ajar.
It might be wise to take steps now to protect you, (and your money), in the future.
Take care.
Geordie.
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You are so right. Gambling isn’t the solution. It is usually the cause of so much grief and a good part of our problems. Because whatever problems we have, gambling just makes them all so much worse. It doesn’t just waste all or our money, it wastes so much of our time. We can’t ever get it back, we can only just make sure we don’t give this addiction any more of our precious time and money. Do you have anyone that can help you with your money that you really trust? I had my mom watch my accounts and I’d give her all my receipts so she’d know I wasn’t doing cash back or returning items for cash. It made a huge difference as i found money itself a trigger. Just touching bills for the longest time was a trigger. Just something to think on 🙂
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Hey Dave, that’s a lot of pressure at one time but perhaps that will work for you as we are not all alike. I understand what you meant about not wanting to stop. For the longest time I would dream or fantasize about winning the lottery so that I could afford to sit there and play the slots all day. And i played in a little dingy smoking room with poor ventilation and some pretty off putting fellow players. Not the typical idea of paradise or what you want to be doing if money was no longer an issue. But to my gambling addled brain that was paradise. Gambling messes with our brains, takes a while for them to sort of balance out. Can affect our moods. Quitting smoking of course has its own set of challenges. Wishing you all the best. Laura
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Hi Dave.
We can’t leave Life behind. We just have to find a set of skills that will help us to cope with the pin pricks that come our way.
Have you spoken to your doctor or counsellor about your depression?
Gambling serves CGs as a crutch but in the end it just makes everything a thousand times worse.
Stopping gambling doesn’t guarantee a perfect life but it does leave space for improvement one day at a time. -
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boy did you say a mouthful! It sure is losing time and money and a good mood. Not only do we waste the time we spend gambling, we waste the time we spend thinking about gambling. Where to get the money, what lie or cover up to tell to get it, the time we spend thinking about the loss that just occurred. And then there is the time we spend thinking about where we can get more money to replace that money. Truly between that and fantasizing about the big jackpot we invest most of of waking thoughts to it really. Especially when deep in a gambling cycle with no room for anything else. I’m glad that you are having some good feelings. Gradually it gets easier. There will be bad days for sure, but it will get easier as time goes on. Have a great evening!
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I hear you Dave.
The wrong comments at the wrong time, especially if you are innocent can be detrimental to recovery.
I can’t blame anyone for my gambling only myself, but I remember hearing comments made when I was gone shopping “Yea we know where SHE is!”!! Maddening, but I have to admit I often said I was shopping for ten hours, when in fact I was in the casino , so it makes loved ones suspicious if we show signs of stepping out of line.
We need to earn back the trust. Very difficult to read the mind of a CG!
Just stay calm Dave or you will give even more reason for people to doubt you.
I know how you feel.
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