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Hi, I’m new to this site. I have read some of the posts before but have never had the guts to post anything, I think I have been in denial to be honest. My husband is a compulsive gambler. I am so scared, lonely and confused. I have become so weak, I am an emotional wreck and have no idea how to deal with it. He won’t admit he has a problem, well he won’t even speak to me if I mention it. He lies to me all the time and I don’t think he cares what he is doing to our marriage. This weekend has been hell. I caught him out gambling again after what I think has been months of no gambling. He went out with friends, switched his fone off all weekend then sent me a text to say he would speak to be when he was home. I had sent him an email explaining how I feel and asking him to move out for a few days to give me some space to think. He came home this afternoon, has barely spoke a word to me, sat in a different room and is acting like he doesn’t care. I don’t know if this is because he no longer cares about me or if this is his gambling disease that is making him act like this. I love him very much and so badly want to help him but how can I if he won’t speak to me or admit he has a problem. Our relationship is brilliant if I never mention gambling, can I really continue to let him lie to me and we both pretend everything is fine? I am at my wits end and have no one else to turn to. Can anyone who lives with a gambler give me any advice or help please? He has been to ga before and lasted about two months after his mum and dad bailed him out of £1000’s of debt lat year. I can’t speak to his parents about it this time because I don’t want to hurt or upset them more than they already have been. I am slowly loosing the will to live….

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