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Hi i am new to this site I’m hoping this will help my addiction. My addiction to gambling has consumed my life my marriage is about to end aND all I can think about is how and when can I gamble again. I just gambled this afternoon and I I just can’t stop. Okay just don’t want to stop it helps me escape from all my unhappyness in my life. My husband isn’t helping me either he gets so angry and has every right to be angry due to my lies and my deceitful Ness to hide my spending but it’s definately not helping me as a matter of fact it makes me want to do it even more………I don’t know what to do I need HELP!!!!”
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Welcome to Gambling Therapy
I see you have done a couple of different posts on the forum, so I am replying to this one.
Hannar you have come to the right place there is lots of help and support avail here, with support groups where you can go in and chat to other problem/compulsive gamblers.
On the top of the page there is a support tab and that gives the group times, there is also a helpline that runs during the day time.
Right now you it sounds like you are desperate for help with your gambling problem, there is help, we all understand the compulsion to gamble if you can keep posting hannar it will help.
To stop gambling we need to take away the ability to gamble, ie cash, cards computer blocks if you gamble on line, could your husband help with that Hanna? When we have crossed the line to problem compulsive gambling it does not just go away Hannar, we need to do all we can to prevent the ability to gamble, it is a very crafty addiction.
We all understand here Hanna, keep posting. -
Welcome from me too. I had also noticed you had more than one ‘thread’, but this one looks like it is now the one to build on.
It sounds as if you are feeling quite desperate just now. I note that you want to gamble to escape the problems in your life, but then find that the escape is short-lived and the problems remain – just getting worse all the time.
I wonder if you can aim to have a peaceful conversation with your husband, telling him a bit about your own fears and anxieties (owning your own feelings, but not blaming or accusing in any way) and also that you do love him very much and need his love too? As you say, your actions may mean that he thinks you no longer care about him. Can you ask him calmly if he will help you to start recovery?
As Harry has said, gambling is a serious and ‘crafty’ addiction and it will not just go away. It will take determined effort and you will need support, but if you decide you really want to change things, you can get there. Your husband may need more information to help him understand things, too, and support for himself. If he can give you the right help, it will be good for you both.
So do use all the resources here. I have two groups this evening, for example – 20.00 and 21.00 hours UK time.
Best wishes,Monique
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Hi Hanna and welcome.
Well done on looking for help.
I am sure you ahve been reading many stories similar to your own on the other threads here. You will also have beren reading the success stories – what are they doing that you could apply to your own situation?
As you say, your husband has every right to be upset and probably has little reason to believe what you say. This is where the old saying “actions speak louder than words” comes in. The actions that will help you stop gambling, such as posting here, self exclusion, accountability, maybe getting to GA meetings, using other support etc etc are the same actions that might give your husband cause to think “Hey, maybe she means it this time.”
Keep posting and let us know what positive actions you are taking.
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