[helpmerecover]

Hi everyone, I’m new to this site. For the past year, my fiancé and I have been going out to the casino constantly. I have realized we have a problem(he doesn’t think so) but I can’t stop. Whenever I try to stop, he wants to go out there and whenever he doesn’t want to go, I want to go to the casino. We are horrible influences on each other. It doesn’t help that all of his friends like to gamble and talk about it constantly. His one friend always calls him to tell him about his big wins, funny how he never mentions his losses. When people talk about it, it makes us want to go out there even though we shouldn’t. I have lost a few thousand and I just keep trying to chase the losses. I have noticed more and more than I can take out more money each time. When I come home, I feel depressed and my fiancé and I get in fights about the casino. It’s horrible because I love him but I’m worried about our finances with us both being into gambling. Please help me figure out how to stop and encourage my fiancé to do the same and realize we have a problem. Thank you.

[carlo0280]

I have the same problem. I want both of us to stop. I do not know how to and i do not know how to talk her out of it. Please help us.

[charles]

Hi Helpmerecover and Carlo,

First of all Carlo, take note of what I’m writing here but then can you start your own Thread please. Then you can both talka bout your own situation and get your own support. Just scroll down to the bottom of the Forum and click on new Topic.

Ok, my advice to both of you would be to concentrate on your own addiction. As the safety talk goes before an aircraft takes off – “Put your own oxygen mask on first, then you can help those around you.”

So, what will stop yopu gambling? Get yourself banned from the casino that you usually go to. That way your partners/friends gambling can’t tempt you as much. You not being able to go might actually start helping them as well. Is there anyone else who can help look after your money for you? At the very least keep it separate and unaccessible to your partner, so that they can’t use your/family money to gamble with. Make it clear that you wil not be paying their share of bills, bailing them out of trouble etc

Use the support that is out there, keep posting here, get to Gamblers Anonymous meetings etc. It will help you and again you might be helping your partner by example.

Keep posting both and let us know what steps you are starting to take to address YOUR gambling. If your partners continue to gamble then there may come a time that you have to make some tough decisions, using support to address your own addiction will put you in a better place to make those decisions.

Again, Carlo, please start your own thread so that you can both get your own support.

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