[leolee831]

I am here for the same reasons as everyone else. I been gambling for the last 8 years. Before this, i had a bring future ( recent graduate with a great paid job, a great gf, good relationship with my family etc) in the last 8 years, i lost everything. My gf broke up with me and later married someone else, my family hates me and everyone looks down on me. I lost everything. Sigh i banned myself from all the local casinos but would still drive miles to another casino. I stopped gambling but ended relapsing. I ended up getting married and the money i got from my marriage was supposed to be used to pay all my debts. My wife knew about my gambling addiction and she still married me. She agreeed to use the money given to us by our guests to pay all my debts. I ended gambling all that money and became more in debt. I told her and she forgave me but she will leave me if i continued gambling. I been gambling her back but she doesnt know but i am afraid she will find out. I been out of the county for 1.5 months and i have lost all urge to gamble but i am afraid when i come back, i will go back to my old habits. I want to stop gambling!!!!!

[leolee831]

I want to stop

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Hello Leo and thanks for starting a thread in the Gambling Therapy forums

Here at Gambling Therapy we pride ourselves on being a caring and diverse online community who can help and support you with the difficulties you’re currently facing. We understand that this might be a tough time for you, particularly if you’re new to recovery, so come here as often as you need to and participate in the forums, access online groups and connect to the live advice helpline if you need one to one support. We’re in this together!

Here on the forum you can share your experiences in a safe, supportive and accepting environment. The beauty of writing it all down is that you can take your time and you will be creating a record of your progress that you can look back on if it ever feels like you’re not moving forward. So, share as much or as little as you like but do try to stick to keeping just one thread in this forum so people know where to find you if they want to be updated on your progress or share something with you.

And on that note….

I’m going to hand you over to our community because I’m sure they will have some words of wisdom for you 🙂

Take care

The Gambling Therapy Team

PS: Let me just remind you to take a look at our
privacy policy and terms and conditions so you know how it all works!

[leolee831]

Its been 3 days since joined and 6 weeks without gambling. I am feeling great but i will be heading back to my hometown soon. Sigh

[C_Noel]

Stay strong! We are all dealing with the constant fear that our addiction will grab hold of us once again. It’s best to come clean sometimes and get professional help. I must do this myself. I plan to attend GA for the first time this Saturday evening. If we really want to be helped, we have to help ourselves first. This is advice I have heard but never taken seriously until now, until losing every penny.

[charlster2]

Hi Leo, another familiar post.

You’ll probably find that your family hate the gambler in you, not the non-gambling you. I’ve lost many people in my life, not because they hate me, but because I’ve frustrated the hell out of them and hurt them of course. We always want everyone to understand our plight, but I realise now that it’s extremely hard for non-gamblers to understand our addiction and because it is so hard to understand, they get frustrated and distance themselves from us. Can you imagine how blasé we must seem to them. If you’re anything like me, I gambled on regardless of any help I received from loved ones and ignored everything that was important in my life, the next bet was all that mattered to me. From an outsiders view point, It’s not a pretty image is it? I’m certain if you can address your problem, bridges may be able to be rebuilt with regards to your family. I hope so anyway.

You’ve taken a massive step just posting on this site, so people around you will eventually see that you are serious about turning your life around and may change their stance.

Honesty’s probably the best policy here. Leading a double life, gambling behind your wife’s back will make matters much, much worse. I know, I’ve been there and bought the T-Shirt more than once! Try and muster the courage to tell her, remember a problem shared is a problem halved. It will also make it more difficult for you to gamble as she will be looking for the signs and take preventative measures.

Good luck and keep posting, there’s plenty of fantastic support and advice on here.

Charlster.

[leolee831]

Thank you all the supports. You guys are amazing and supportive. I havent gamble since i came back to the state and dont want to but i keep wanting to go to vegas and get drunk and party. I know when i am drunk i will surely gamble. Right now i am 2 months free from gambling and i am slowly recovering. I feel so bad for my wife because she works everyday and stresses about money to pay for bills. I am part of the problem becuase my loans take up all my income i take home every month. I hope i dont gamble and be able to save up in the next year to be able to pay all my loans. Thank you for your words of encouragement and support. I hope we all continue together in this recovery from gambling.

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