[vera]

I go out on Monday evenings. I usually focus on getting home for at least the tail end of the 21:00hrs Group. I see it as one of my “accountability/barrier” strategies.
Now that it’s for new members only I have no need to be in a hurry home which leaves me open.
Are these changes written in stone?
Say, for example , no new members enter the group, will it extended to the “old and lonely”CGs?
Just wondering!

[vera]

Thanks Harry
Open Groups are usually empty.

[vera]

CGs are impatient Harry and sometimes need instant help….

[vera]

Some Australian members used that group as a kickstart to the day too but they can speak for themselves.
GT is a bit of a Comfort Zone for me. I don’t use other sites.
I suppose we never miss the water ’til the well runs dry.

[vera]

Thanks Sad but I feel a bit like a Born Again/ Recycled Fake when I go to new recovery places . (God knows there are enough of that type without me jumping on the wagon. LOL) A bit like rewinding the clock and trying my luck in new casinos when in reality they are all the same. I will just avoid the hellholes and focus on restoring my Fund. Tomorrow is the 12th . Payment 8. Only 22 to go! Where did those 8 months go!
See you in a GT Group soon Sad. Thanks for your input.
Be good!

[female g]

I must admit I feel the same way Vera and get very disappointed when i can’t find a group. One of the biggest things that is the hardest for cg’s is rules and regulations. I’m surprised that isn’t being recognized really. Turning a cg away is like saying your not wanted here I feel. Its like abandonment. FG

[p]

Yes I’ve gotta say that I don’t like the change to the groups, i understand new members need to focus though but just thinking maybe then add another one in for us that meet regularly if thats possible?
I don’t think the time restrictions are useful i think it just stops people accessing groups. There aren’t really enough who use them to warrant it i don’t think as in interruptions etc.
Just my piece, though i know its done.

P

[vera]

Good idea , P!
An extra Group for New Members only would do the job either.
I think as FG rightly said CGs are bad on keeping to Rules and Regulations. We also need the security of knowing that the rules won’t change too often. Commitment to groups helps us to re train ourselves and get into the good habit of regular attendance. GA works for those who attend on a regular basis. The same could be said for online Groups.
My fear is that people just won’t bother trying after a while. That would be such a pity.

[vera]

Couldn’t have put it better myself Sad!
My husband insisted that the gambling counsellor I attended (she wasn’t exactly a gambling counsellor at all but was paid to counsel me by the gambling industry) was a plant i.e was a source of driving me back to gambling I accused him of being paranoid at the time but in truth I usually gambled on my way home from my sessions with her. She had a room set up where there were a few casinos and yet she told me she never saw a casino in her life.
The plot thickens!
(we’ll definitely get the bullet here now!)

[p]

Ok i totally get new members need their own group as sometimes when you are further into recovery sometimes the conversations divert a lot from gambling and new members need focus. After relapse i feel like a new member and have to go back to basics, but then again i know the basics so i get that there needs to be separate groups.
All as i was thinking was.. can there be a group for old members too. So just old members join, maybe ones who have been on the site over a year.
Whatever happens, I’ve accepted it and moved on. Glad the site is here and there are other sites with groups too if none on here

P

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