[cottencandy76]

I’ve been with my girlfriend for 5 years. She has been amazing and I very much love her. She confessed a few months ago that for the better part of our relationship, she has had a gambling addiction. It was very hard for me to process and I remained supportive but distanced myself. I am so conflicted now. I want to stay with her because I love her but she has lied to me a lot and has become a bit resentful of me being distant. She relapsed and partly blames me for my lack of support. I know longer want to live together but would like to keep working on our relationship. She sees this as a betrayal and if I don’t support her in her down moments then I won’t deserve her in her good moments when she recovers. I am so full guilt and love and hurt. She is doing things to get better such as self exclusion and therapy. I believe she will get better, but I also fear she might hurt me and lie to me again.

Does anyone have any advice for me? Or have been in a similar situation.

[malca83]

Hello and thank you for this issue

Thank you for bringing it, I can tell you from my experience, that I also really love my lover, still and even though I tried to move … but I came to the conclusion that the CRAFT method is best for us, and our support as a couple, is what can help them succeed I decided to learn about the subject to understand Him and the suffering he goes through, as well as my limits to help and be in empathy and compassion but not to allow the continuation of the destructive behavior, I am today, after I too left and were afraid to understand that by Scheller I left him and supports him in words, in my love, it gives him hope The love we have healed and will help him get through it and recover. This morning I came to the conclusion that the meaning I get, is that I will help my loved one who suffers, but in a healthy way and does not allow the destruction. I keep love him and want to biuld with him life with all his he bring becouse i belive in hos good that will arrive…he try so hurd and i belive that my supoort and love help him to see hope.

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