Good for you I-did-It for taking on board the points that were made regarding the wine drinking.
Only you know the exact amounts you drink/drank, but I think drinking is a bit like gambling. We justify our actions surrounding the activity, saying “it’s only a bit of fun/everyone does it/it’s “my ” time/I’m entitled to relax with what makes me happy/sure there’s no harm in it/I will quit if it gets out of hand etc etc etc”.
Two things stand out on your thread, I did it ( NOT being negative. now!)
You mention hangovers quite a bit.
Also. you mention times when you “intend not drinking, but end up drinking”!
I would see these two things as warning signs.
It may be documented that alcohol is helpful in certain medical conditions but I think the ill effects are also well known. We hear the things that we want to hear.
It is also well documented that withdrawal from alcohol causes many symptoms with depression and irritability high up on the list.
As a compulsive gambler who doesn’t enjoy alcohol, I sympathize with anyone who”enjoys” both. For me, alcohol would certainly give me a great excuse to gamble. I could blame “being under the influence” as a reason for gambling “off guard”. I notice quite a few CGs on this site relate “slipping” when drunk. It stands to reason that our judgement will be impaired and our defences will be down when we are “jolly”.
( Just think of what happens at Christmas office parties…)
That’s my two pence halpenny worth.
No judgement! No negativity. Just facts.
Anything that stops “being fun” should be given closer scrutiny.
Believe me I did it, I speak these words to myself even louder that I do to you.
Why not add a splash of wine to 7up when you are in social settings. I see a few friends of mine doing that.
