Hi Vera,
Thank you for your post. Behaviour of course can be influenced by those around us and the situations. However the choice of how to handle or react is our choice alone. In the past I have too have not always reacted as well as I would have liked in hindsight Tyring to help and protect everyone except myself.
Saying no, that behaviour is not acceptable is the first step in no longer being an enabler.
I have learned from the F&F cycle to expect the anger my Son is showing as it is not him but the Gambler (addiction) who is being challenged.
Unfortunately behaviour is learned and after a long time of watching his mother being treated poorly and accepting it from my CG ex it comes as a bit of a shock to all when you find the strength to say ENOUGH…..
bullies use the classic “divide and conquer” method to isolate family members, turning one against the other, and will always have a scapegoat. This is so true and why it is so important to speak out and not keep things a secret.
I hope your son (and mine) realise and admit what they have done wrong.
Gamanon was something I tried when dealing with my ex, but I do find this site very helpful.
Best of luck with controlling your CG and well done on getting it under control.
