Thank you for your interesting input , Monica. If my son’s father had supported me from day one, my son would not have these tantrums. He (my son)and I are actually very alike. Controlling. We clash. The biggest objection I have is that my husband allows him to swear and roar at me and never once has he intervened. It is a mixture of fear and cowardice. It was the same when I gambled. It suited my husband to be the victim. In the same way as it suits him to enable his son to voice the things he never had the guts to say himself. I won’t bore you with the details.Suffice to say I didn’t or won’t gamble . It throws them off completely when I don’t react as expected. I went for a 4 mile walk. My son opted to come with me. He interrogated me about different family “issues”. He gleans information and throws it back in a distorted way at inappropriate times, just as his father trained him to do , growing up.
As you can guess, I am VERY angry.
Gambling would be the very worst remedy for any of this mess.
I am also very difficult to live with.