Thanks vera, p and geordie. Most of the money I lost last 3-4 months came from stashes my wife didn’t know about. Some of it came from our saving account in her name and I said it is going to an investment. I should be able to make up for that money (from her saving account) fairly soon.
My wife doesn’t really speak english and she doesn’t snoop around, so it’s very unlikely she would find this forum and read my posts.
Telling her about it would in no way make me less likely to gamble again. It would cause aggravation and disappointed on her end along with uncertainty, distrusfullness and possibly outright anger.
It’s like having an affair that ended. Would she want to know about it? NO, she wouldn’t and she told me once so, in so many words. Would I want to know if she had an affair (that ended) that I didn’t suspect or knew anything about? I wouldn’t.
I’m not sure that this is the best analogy, but that’s what I got for ya’ll at the moment 🙂
If I start gambling again I will probably have no choice but to tell her, but at the moment there’s no reason to tell her. On contrary, there’s plenty of reasons not to.
I will try to make it to the group tonight, home to see you guys there.
Day #33 today.