Now that is what I call a lovely supportive post! Yes, my son is a wonderful young man. He had a tough upbringing. He told me how he has watched everyone make their mistakes in life and has learned from them. He actuallysaid to me before we met up that this was not to be a counselling session and I had to laugh at that. But we did till share some feeling stuff. He lives in his stepfathers mothers house with his stepdad still there. He confronted him sometime ago about his emotional abuse he endured as a child while I was out working 2 jobs. His gave it with both barrels. He says he feels,sorry for his stepdad. He was just silent and said nothing . The reason he feels sorry for him Is that he could not own it,he could not admit to it or even say sorry. For him there is no doing something wrong, cos he is always right. I recalled the time when I was nine months pregnant with my daughter and he just kept shouting at me continually right in my face. I locked myself in the bathroom and my waters then broke, which seemed to be the only thing to shut him up. My son has his issues still with him but has grown enormously out of this. I said I was sorry that it took me so long to do anything about it, which I did when he left prompted by me, but not before stripping the house of everything and leaving me with nothing. He actually took every photo in the house. The stuff of life. This ex saved my life once and I guess I was too busy being grateful and disregarded his appalling behaviour for too long. He did have a lot of redeeming features but I guess the shadow side of some men is too hard to deal,with. He was emotionally bullied and abused as a child by his stepfather. How, despite it all and trying hard not to, sometimes, we seem to repeat the sins of the father sometimes. It as as I posted on here previously, this pattern has been healed to some extent and not repeated with the grandkids.
