Hi Velvet,
Thank you for all of your advice. I don’t think I can stay with him if I can’t trust him. I know ultimatums are best avoided but I can’t continue to do this to myself. The feeling of not knowing if he’s gambling is killing me and driving me crazy. I’m 25 years old and my hair is beginning to fall out daily from the amount of stress. I want to be there for him I do but I don’t know how to be. What is the proper way to react when I see him engaging in behaviors he used to when he was gambling? I feel like everything I say turns into a fight. I feel like I’m walking on egg shells all the time. He hasn’t paid his part of the bills this month and keeps saying he hasn’t gotten his check yet. He says this is the last time that he will stick to the plan from now on. Just today he got a letter from a debt collector though. I feel as if it is getting worse and worse and there is nothing I can do about it.
