Recently my boyfriend has begun to show signs of gambling again. He did not come home the night before Thanksgiving. His reasons were because I was acting crazy and not trusting him. He said he was at a side job painting but I had my doubts when he was not answering me when I called. I sent some texts that I am not proud of. I was somewhat accusing him of not being honest. I know that this is not something I should do but I couldn’t help it I felt crazy. Well, he did not come home. This of course made me even more upset as this was the kind of behavior he has when he was gambling. My boyfriend and I made a deal that he would let me help him with budgeting and his money for bills. He has been going back on that promise and using money that is meant for bills. He says its to pay people he owes money to which could be true since he is in a lot of dept or he could be gambling the money away. We had a talk about this and went over the numbers of amount of money owed weekly and amount of money needed for spending weekly and monthly. Basically, he does not make enough to cover all weekly/monthly expenses. He owes money to two people who are charging him an insane amount of interest. I just don’t know how to advise him and don’t know how to cope myself. He can work overtime and side jobs in order to make enough but he’s becoming so worn down. I am beginning to wonder if I should give up but I love him so much. Just don’t know what to do. I am giving him another week to show me if he can stick to our plan and if he can’t I guess I have a lot of thinking to do.
