Just a quick post, Chamomile.
I am very happy to hear that you and your husband/partner are settling into Recovery together.
There are no certainties in Life. It’s all about finding balance between Heart and Head and learning how to roll with the punches.
You ask how to cope IF a “slip” takes place.
I listen to lots of men in GA who are years in Recovery who , with the support of faithful wives, made it IMPOSSIBLE for slips to take place.
1. They handed over full management of finances and live on a very limited daily allowance.
2. Their wives attended Gamanon and kept themselves well protected and ten steps ahead.
(CGs are clever but women have a 6th sense. LOL!)
3. They have open communication , daily.
If I were in your situation I would set boundaries but never issue ultimatums. That can be a serious threat for a CG and lead to “If I tell the truth, I’m a gonner, this time”. State your plan once and only once and act on it if needs be. You will know what to do if it ever arises.
In the meantime….
Just take Life one day at a time.
Enjoy each moment separately and together.
Your Loved One is MUCH more than a CG but remember the Cg will always be in him.
“The monkey doesn’t jump off your back as soon as the circus leaves town”!
AWARENESS is the key!