Hi Bettie! Let me start off by saying that only a kind, loving person would have gone into that home and cleaned and took care of the birds. A lot of people talk the talk, but when it comes down to having to do something for someone else that involves giving of themselves, especially when it’s something that involves work, a lot of people don’t walk the talk. I’m sure that what you did for that man, blessed his heart. I can’t even imagine the frustration and hurt you must feel with the GA group you attend. As far as I understand you did nothing to jeopardize the confidentiality of the group. You didn’t identify the individual who said it was their opinion that you only had abstinence and not recovery for the 9 months. You said nothing to identify anyone else in your group, or anything about anyone else’s recovery but yours. Honestly Bettie, what comes to mind for me is CULT, with certain individuals in your group!! I believe that GA groups are of tremendous value for many, many individuals and if there was a group where I lived, I would attend. Are members not allowed to disagree with what other’s are saying about you, when you don’t believe it to be accurate? Only you can decide for yourself whether this group is healthy in terms of your recovery. I’m frustrated for you Bettie, and I’ve facilitated many groups in my past work experience, and I would never have allowed what was said to be supported by other members, nor by myself. Whoever is leading the group is a gatekeeper, in the sense that people are not harmed by what is said. Carole
