Hello Bettie, thank you for talking to me n chat, it really helped me. I posted a long post and then re did it later. My second post was much more personal. I have gone to Alanon (myhusband drinker) for almost 3 years and the one thing I learned of all is "It’s my program". The concepts of Alanon follows AA and GA follows AA as well. We share our "strength, hope and experience" but we do not give advice. This statement has helped me immensly. It’s great to have a sponsor, but in reality our program is ours, not theirs, not our friends, or our mom’s- its ours. This must hold true for any type of program. I used to try to tell my husband not to do this, do that blah blah, but when I realized I would not like someone telling me what to do, I stopped telling him what to do and I stopped letting other people tell me what to do. I like to have people share and I may accept their ways or advice but the choice is mine! I like having choices. Now as far as gambling goes- there’s my weakness and I am making a choice to start here and again, thank you for hearing me. I’m sending a big fat hug to you and look forward to hearing of your successes. And, have fun cleaning! I’m doing the same. Take care.Liz50
