Originally posted by bettie
… I won’t cover my bosses *ss like the assistant does now so he really doesn’t want me (in that position) …
… Even though he doesn’t like me he needs me and he knows it …
… I just don’t know what to do! …
Goof morning Betty,
First it is good to see that your post did not have to tell of doing other things when you are in this position of not knowing what to do; good to see that you are staying gambling free and that your work in recovery is letting you look at the other aspects of your life in a clearer way.
Kissing a bosses *ss is not the same as doing what is natural in protecting a business and promoting it; something that you seem to be good at and have been doing over the past years. Sometimes being promoted into a management position can stifle this qualification and make life more miserable by having to deal with conscience instead of horse’s rears. Working as a supervisor takes away from the duties at hand and in fact involves covering up mistakes, not necessary the culprit, but the mistake to preserve the business. I am speaking from my past labor/management relations experience in a union and know that some people are just not cut out to be the one needed to do the nasty task. I myself turned down advancement and promotions into a management positions more than once; I could not see myself doing what I was confronting others of doing while protecting the rights of the workers and promoting good business at the same time.
Give a lot of thought in keeping doing what you are good at and are recognized for. The recognition may not come in the form of an advancement and symbolic title, but recognition earned is better than recognition paid for by conformizing integrity.
Today’s email from Ken L below may be about relationships with our life partners, but it can also apply to our working environments and our making ourselves emotionally absent from our true happiness. Be aware of your fears and turn them over to your Higher Power – you can even say, "Frankly my dear, I don’t give a damn".
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Today’s thought from Hazelden is:
Our problem is that we expect to feel secure.
Many of us have had past crises and problems, yet our worries and anxieties continue in the present. We believe that our situation causes our fears and we say, "If only things were different, I could relax." Yet even when everything is going well, we still get anxious that something unseen is amiss. When we are immersed in our fears, unable to let go and live life joyfully, we may become emotionally absent from our loved ones (or ourselves).
Our problem is not that life is insecure. Of course it is. Our problem is that we expect to feel secure. We put great energy into achieving control and having everything "just right," but quite naturally we end up without control. Then we think something is wrong. Instead, we can choose to turn our fears over to our Higher Power. We do that by talking about our fears, taking the steps we can, and trusting our Higher Power for the outcomes. Then we return to emotional contact in our relationship.
Tell your partner something you fear and turn it over to your Higher Power.
You are reading from the book:
The More We Find In Each Other by Merle Fossum and Mavis Fossum
LarryThanks to my Higher Power, My 3G’s – God, GA, and GT, "Day Two Is Another Day Behind" and with the help from all , I will continue to remain gambling free.