[velvet]

 
Dear Kathryn
His shoulders were like barometers that determined the happiness I was allowed to feel. Straight and tall meant I could relax. Drooping meant keep the kids out of his way, walk on eggshells and agree.  My feelings were not my own and I think what you have written is terrific. I was not so brave.
  
Live in comfort with yourself and your feelings. I do now and it works.
Loads of Love
V xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx