Obviously, I do not know the details of you issues you were having previously and I cannot advise on what you can do, so I shall tell you what I have learned about my CG – perhaps you will see something similar in what I say, That is maybe the only comfort I can give…
Gamblers have by their nature low self-esteem and a willing to self-destruct. There doesnt seem to be any logic to this or consideration of the impact on others.
My CG will turn to others who he know will give him an easy ego boost, when I am not telling him what he wants to hear. It KILLS me. He will tell others that we are no longer together to get what he wants or tell people I wasnt what he wanted and that he needs something from them. Obviously, this means for me that there is no trust. However, I believe that he does truely love me and all of this terrible beheviour is a side effect of the addiction.
Noone around me understands why I would stay. There are so many”relationship dealbreakers” in what has happened. and I agree. But I am still there…