Last night my husband and I went out to dinner at a nice restaurant we have never been before, and then we went to a concert. We each ordered only soup and a dinner salad, so we could enjoy some luxury without breaking the bank. Saved money and calories too!
I posted this here because some where along the line, we stopped doing things like this. During arguments, I would through it in his face that our life was so boring, we never did anything any more, no excitement, etc. Also, that he had his things that he did that didn’t include me, and I didn’t have anything…There was quite a bit of truth in this fact. But that wasn’t his fault. More a consequence of a lifestyle change that took me away from home. Nevertheless, it wasn’t his fault, and I was, justifying my gambling, and trying to put some of the blame on him. There was also the fact that I felt guilty about spending extra money because I had already spent so much gambling.
I do think he saw some truth in my words, and since I began my recovery, he has tried to be more open about going out and we both are trying to find things that we can do together, making a point to accept invitations, and accepting freebies from our friends, like free concert tickets! I have also found things that I enjoy doing on my own or with my friends.
